This is a question that only girls who have had relationships in which sex didn't occur could probably only answer. I went out with a girl my senior year of high school (2006-7) for close to a year. She is a year younger then me so she was a junior at the time. We were both virgins at the time and she basically had no experience at all, in fact she only had her first kiss like 2 months before we started dating. We never had sex, or oral, basically just did hand jobs and fingering throughout the entire relationship. She was afraid of getting pregnant and always joked around that she would end up being a nun. We broke up close to the end of my senior year. A couple months later she gets a new boyfriend and has sex with him within like three months of them being together. Flash forward to last spring (2009) and she has now had numerous sexual partners however still has only had two boyfriends (me and the other guy). One night I was hanging out with her, a friend she brought home from school and a mutual friend of ours. Our mutual friend asked my ex's friend if she knew if me and my ex used to be boyfriend/girlfriend and she said no. Her friend asked my ex and my ex totally denied the fact that we went out for almost a year. I was pretty upset with this for the obvious reasons. She had been drinking that night so I didn't know if that was a reason why she denied that we had been together, if she was just being a smart ass, or if she was truly like ashamed at the fact we once were together. We have continued to be really good friends even after we broke up, in fact I am basically what most people call a security blanket for her, when she needs help/advice I am the one that gets the call. So my question to girls is, once you've had sex with your first guy/boyfriend do you basically consider those previous relationships that you didn't have sex with as non existent since you never had sex? Or does it not matter whether or not you had sex with him and will still consider him your former boyfriend. Its been over a year since the time she denied we were together but it still “stings” since we continue to talk and hangout.