so a new year has started at my school. and theres a fresh crop of potential freshmen. earlier in the summer i realized(fully) i wasnt totally gay and i decided i (really really really) wanted to try having sex with a girl. but after chatting up a whole bunch at a few parties.. im not getting anywhere. i never know how to take it to that next level. i feel like a deaf guy at a disco.. my friend keeps telling me all i gotta do is dance.. but i dont hear any freaking beat! and theres this guy whos complicating things by being freaking cute as hell and chatting ME up.. totally unprompted(so far as i can tell.. maybe my eyes betray me).... but.. damnit i have no gaydar. i cant be sure. maybe hes just nice? the easiest thing i can think of to do is to simply ask "hey so are you gay?" but im not that freaking blunt.. and i dunno where to go after that... anyone else ever have either of these problems?? how did you get around it? do i just need to grow some larger balls? crappy thread.