No vaginal orgasm
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I would suggest buying her a vibrator
and telling her to masturbate with it
to learn the cues of her own body.
Then when she recognizes what
gets her mojo working, she can
translate that to hot sex with
you and recognizing the cues in
her body during sex.
and telling her to masturbate with it
to learn the cues of her own body.
Then when she recognizes what
gets her mojo working, she can
translate that to hot sex with
you and recognizing the cues in
her body during sex.
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Oh hey...Lex just answered the
fascination for cum shots with
men...it is indeed their proof
that a man has reached climax
as some guys figure women are
faking it...hmmmm.
fascination for cum shots with
men...it is indeed their proof
that a man has reached climax
as some guys figure women are
faking it...hmmmm.
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Speaking as a 47 year old, I'd love to know how your lady got your attention and what attracted you to her. I have my eye on this hunky 23 year old, you see...
As for vaginal versus clitoral orgasm, I've found it pretty much impossible to orgasm
from vaginal stimulation alone. It's also very difficult for a man to bring me to orgasm even with clitoral stimulation. Have you managed that for her? You're doing really well if you have.
But don't let it become a big issue between you - because you'll end up making her feel like she isn't "performing properly." Vaginal stimulation is a vital part of the sex act for me, and probably for her as well, and contributes to the overall enjoyment.
As for vaginal versus clitoral orgasm, I've found it pretty much impossible to orgasm
from vaginal stimulation alone. It's also very difficult for a man to bring me to orgasm even with clitoral stimulation. Have you managed that for her? You're doing really well if you have.
But don't let it become a big issue between you - because you'll end up making her feel like she isn't "performing properly." Vaginal stimulation is a vital part of the sex act for me, and probably for her as well, and contributes to the overall enjoyment.
I had a girlfriend like this. She could cum if I ate her but not strictly from vaginal intercourse. Someone suggested that I pleasure her orally to the brink of orgasm and then ram my cock into her. I tried this a few times and almost had it but we broke up. See my thread in "Relationships..." about my wild ex. It's her.
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As much of what we feel in sex is about self-esteem and feeling wanted as it is about physical stimulation. Some would say this is even more true when said about women (comments ladies?).
If your lady feels she is extra special, feels that you are listening to her body and taking her cues, that you're doing it not just because you can, but because you want her specifically, she is far more likely to orgasm in whatever form.
All people are neurally wired different to one another. Some women do find orgasm is easier from one form of stimulation than another just like guys know just how they like to jerk off or be sucked just so, but it's all controlled by the brain where theses nerve pulses end up, not by the meaty friction.
Show your 47 year old lady, whether love is involved or not, that at that time you are together she is the most wonderful thing in the world, that there is nowhere you'd rather be, no-one you'd rather be with, no pussy you'd rather be deep inside than hers and you're half way to giving her vaginal Nirvana already.
If your lady feels she is extra special, feels that you are listening to her body and taking her cues, that you're doing it not just because you can, but because you want her specifically, she is far more likely to orgasm in whatever form.
All people are neurally wired different to one another. Some women do find orgasm is easier from one form of stimulation than another just like guys know just how they like to jerk off or be sucked just so, but it's all controlled by the brain where theses nerve pulses end up, not by the meaty friction.
Show your 47 year old lady, whether love is involved or not, that at that time you are together she is the most wonderful thing in the world, that there is nowhere you'd rather be, no-one you'd rather be with, no pussy you'd rather be deep inside than hers and you're half way to giving her vaginal Nirvana already.
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ThaitAss said:
Hey ThaitAss -- Its quite a little story. I'm a Med Student and therefore get to spend time in the hospital... especially the ER. Well she is a nurse and has spied me in scrubs where my parts show thru somewhat where the exhibitionist part of me is manifesting itself. We talked a lot... and we had a small ice storm so I drove her home... after irish coffee and more talk... she wanted (needed) a large dick and she got one.
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Ladies and Gentleman....I think we have a WINNER here....EnglishGentleman said:
But all the rest of you have valuable contributions...The 40- 50- and 60- women I have had great sexual relationships with conveyed sentiments like those expressed by EnglishGentleman. Only fortunate to ever find one woman that could truly identify or describe a vaginal orgasm for me to understand ( yes we males are often thick in more than one way).
She was blessed with being multi-orgasmic as well. In those settings she told me that a partner had to be sensitive to her mood and needs for full arousal that not many males were willing to provide pursue.
In other words she did not respond to those SLAM BAM THANK YOU MAM approaches that were hot when she was in her 20s. Stamina is valued in younger males. Time and tempermant has its rewards. Older woman also express a desire just to be held with or without the afterglow of sex present.
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Got into trouble here. This gal has been talking to a whole lot of the other women about me. It appears that I have become the latest joke about hooking up with everyone imaginagle in the supply and janitorial closets. You know like the goings on from the TV shows. Not only have they said things about getting me into an exam room I have even been asked if I would give an anatomical showing. While I like all the attention, I think I have to cool the jets here and let her find someone else to give her the big O.
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Grit said:
You are a smart guy...seems like she's
quite immature, despite her chronological
age.
Yes, attention can be flattering but as
you see, being just a sexual object can
also be hurtful.
Hi all,
my first 'proper' posting. I've found that it is possible to bring a woman to orgasm vaginally by foreplay. You have to be able to locate and caress her clitoris in a way she likes it (when she masturbates for example). You also have to fine her g spot as well inside her too. A good indicator a womans really aroused as many know is if she is very wet vaginally. Some women find having their neck kissed and gently bitten also the nipples tweaked gently adds to them becoming more aroused. The grinding of hips together with her pelvic bone rubs against her clit and this should when all said and done heighten her to orgasm really....Maybe Im wrong but I've found that if 2 people really click, the sex is great and the orgasm occurs....its happened for me with women. Hope that helps.
my first 'proper' posting. I've found that it is possible to bring a woman to orgasm vaginally by foreplay. You have to be able to locate and caress her clitoris in a way she likes it (when she masturbates for example). You also have to fine her g spot as well inside her too. A good indicator a womans really aroused as many know is if she is very wet vaginally. Some women find having their neck kissed and gently bitten also the nipples tweaked gently adds to them becoming more aroused. The grinding of hips together with her pelvic bone rubs against her clit and this should when all said and done heighten her to orgasm really....Maybe Im wrong but I've found that if 2 people really click, the sex is great and the orgasm occurs....its happened for me with women. Hope that helps.
Grit,
do you really think that a vaginal orgasm is "better" than a clitoral one? Besides the fun which someone can have with all these erotic activities, the final goal is and should be an orgasm, no matter in which way!
You put yourself under a certain pressure if you think you would have to prove your lady that she is able to have a vaginal orgasm. And believe me, all kinds of these pressures lead in one way or the other to frustration if you cannot reach the self-defined goal.
Most women don't know a vaginal orgasm and always need a certain stimulation of other spots, so be so kind and accept that and respect your sex partner! It's respecting another human being being different, nothing else.
Try to make the woman feel good in bed, much more important - and have fun, BOTH of you!
Judith
do you really think that a vaginal orgasm is "better" than a clitoral one? Besides the fun which someone can have with all these erotic activities, the final goal is and should be an orgasm, no matter in which way!
You put yourself under a certain pressure if you think you would have to prove your lady that she is able to have a vaginal orgasm. And believe me, all kinds of these pressures lead in one way or the other to frustration if you cannot reach the self-defined goal.
Most women don't know a vaginal orgasm and always need a certain stimulation of other spots, so be so kind and accept that and respect your sex partner! It's respecting another human being being different, nothing else.
Try to make the woman feel good in bed, much more important - and have fun, BOTH of you!
Judith
absolutely. a woman has to know that you are there with her 100percent. if she takes ages to come and she even senses that ur bored with trying to please her you have no chance in making her come. you have to want to do it. not just go through the motions. and womens g spots are in all different places. some are difficult to locate but when you do wow!!sf1378 said:
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JUST A POSTSCRIPT REPLY TO MY EARLIER POST REPLY....GOOD SEX CAN TAKE MANY FORMS AND COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY. A WOMAN WILL EITHER TELL YOU DIRECTLY OR GIVE YOU LOTS OF SIGNS THAT YOU HAVE PLEASED HER SEXUALLY....SOME WOMEN HAVE NOT HAD MUCH EXPERIENCE WITH ORGASMS AND NEED TIME DISCOVERING HOW TO ACHIEVE THEM.spankorama_gal said:
I LEARNED IN MY LATE 20S NOT TO SET QUOTAS FOR ORGASMS SO AS TO NOT PUT UNDUE PRESSURE ON MYSELF OR MY PARTNER...IT MAKE TAKE YOU A WHILE TO LEARN WHAT EACH WOMAN HAS THAT IS UNIQUELY HER "SIGNATURE" FOR MAKING LOVE. MUCH OF THE PLEASURE COMES FROM EXPLORING YOUR SEXUALLY WITH YOUR PARTNER...HAPPY HUNTING....:redface:
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