Ok, so my friend`s dad leaves her mother for an attractive woman. He stops calling, writing to his kids, FULL STOP! I go for a visit to my other friend, have dinner-great food, her family is there, all in all, a pleasant evening. Her mother is a very successful woman, a widow, has a great job and she has been supporting her two daughters on her own for a long time. Then we have started talking about THE OTHER friend, the one dad left, and my friend`s mother says about her - 'No Wonder he Left her mother, she is a Cripple'! OMG! I was so shocked, I just hold my glass trying not to spill the wine! My friend has noticed my discomfort, and I can`t say she has felt comfortable at all, and she says -'MOOOOOM'! Then the woman goes, not realising she should stop- 'What? I know I`m right!!!' Here is the deal, I have known the woman since I have been 8, and I have never noticed her disability, her light leg is slightly paralised, but the woman walks, depending on days, normally or hard. I have never heard a man call her that. I was taught not to use such words, and having a really sick and disabled cousin, made me hypersensitive to such issues. My question is, bare in mind that this can be a cultural thing, why do some women tend to be so hard on other women? It`s not like women haven`t gone through enough shit in history, mostly created by men. Every 3rd woman south of Belgrade in Serbia is psysically abused by her husband. This is not a man bashing thread, keep in mind that most men we know are great guys! Only a few of us are assholes, but unfortunately capable of doing awful things.