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Hi everyone! Well, as the title says, I'm a non-binary person who has had more sexual experiences being a bottom than as a top. Personally, I enjoy both, but slightly more top as being bottom involves getting prepared and the constant fear of something happening during sex (I already had some of those, and I can say that I'm a bit traumatized by that, so every time I'm going to have sex where I know I'm gonna bottom at some point, that fear appears, and I can't enjoy the whole experience as I should). Meanwhile, this doesn't happen when I'm topping because I simply don't care if something happens, or if the bottom showered or not. Well, the problem is that as I'm a non-binary person, it's more likely that people tend to think that there's no other possibility than me being bottom because I'm more fem and because I have a big bum. Instantly people are interested in topping me, even if they are most often bottoms.
So, I feel trapped in this paradox, that the only possibility that people will get interested in me is if I'm a bottom (or vers that will have to bottom at some point), and feeling uncomfortable being bottom because of all the work involved with it (even tho I LOVE to bottom as well)
I'm here looking for people that could give me advice on what I could do, or if anyone has already experienced something similar.
So, I feel trapped in this paradox, that the only possibility that people will get interested in me is if I'm a bottom (or vers that will have to bottom at some point), and feeling uncomfortable being bottom because of all the work involved with it (even tho I LOVE to bottom as well)
I'm here looking for people that could give me advice on what I could do, or if anyone has already experienced something similar.