Non-Negotiables: What Are Yours?

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Well today was a great day! Not only was it daddy's 80th birthday but my cousin came by and announced his engagement.

I'm glad cause he's been alone too long since his divorce and I really like his fiancee. She's smart, funny, and pretty. Anywho he mentioned that she was cool with all of his non-negotiables.

He said he had 5 things that are important to him that were in his life before she came along and he was keeping them no matter what e.g. non-negotiable. Fortunately the things he considers non-negotiable are rather miniscule IMHO. The things he can't live without: His motorcycle, guitar, wide screen tv, king size bed, and one floating thing which he said could be changed at anytime. :rolleyes: Men, :tongue: Cool thing about his fiancee, she likes motorcycles so much, she got tired of riding bitch, and went out and bought her own bike last year. :cool:

Now I know this has been discussed before, in a variety of ways, but I'm tired and don't feel like looking it up. :tongue: What are your non-negotiables? What are you not willing to give up to be with someone else?
 

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I think in a relationship once someone is asked to give up things the relationship is doomed. Why would we ask someoneone we love to give up the things they love? Is it not these things that made us fall in love with them in the first place? Its part of who they are. Other then being single we gave up nothing and if asked we would give up everything for eachother.
 

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I think in a relationship once someone is asked to give up things the relationship is doomed. Why would we ask someoneone we love to give up the things they love? Is it not these things that made us fall in love with them in the first place? Its part of who they are. Other then being single we gave up nothing and if asked we would give up everything for eachother.

I'm pretty much in total agreement with Snakey here.
 

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I think in a relationship once someone is asked to give up things the relationship is doomed. Why would we ask someoneone we love to give up the things they love? Is it not these things that made us fall in love with them in the first place? Its part of who they are. Other then being single we gave up nothing and if asked we would give up everything for eachother.

I agree. Thats why you ask to give up things that they don't love, like futons. :rolleyes:

But to answer the question, I'd have to say my family, and my valuables (the things that actually mean something to me). If any woman tried to keep me from my family, her chances of getting kicked to the curb go up exponentially.
 

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I think in a relationship once someone is asked to give up things the relationship is doomed. Why would we ask someoneone we love to give up the things they love? Is it not these things that made us fall in love with them in the first place? Its part of who they are. Other then being single we gave up nothing and if asked we would give up everything for eachother.

Previously, NJQT called item/issues "dealbreakers". The situation is the same, but at a different stage of a relationship.
 

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I think in a relationship once someone is asked to give up things the relationship is doomed. Why would we ask someoneone we love to give up the things they love? Is it not these things that made us fall in love with them in the first place? Its part of who they are. Other then being single we gave up nothing and if asked we would give up everything for eachother.

Very well said (except for someoneone) :wink::biggrin1:
 

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I think in a relationship once someone is asked to give up things the relationship is doomed. Why would we ask someoneone we love to give up the things they love? Is it not these things that made us fall in love with them in the first place? Its part of who they are. Other then being single we gave up nothing and if asked we would give up everything for eachother.[/quote] I agree. I have twice had men ask me to convert to Catholicism because they were devout Catholics. I have since sworn off dating Catholics. :tongue:

Oddly, it has never occurred to me to ask any man I have dated to change anything major like that. There was one guy who kept his olive oil in the refrigerator and that drove me nuts so we compromised by having separate bottles of olive oil.:cool:

Previously, NJQT called item/issues "dealbreakers". The situation is the same, but at a different stage of a relationship.
It's similar but not the same. A dealbreaker would be something the other person did or believed which was a turn off for me.