Hey SizequeenNY,
Looks like the postings are going off the topic a bit but maybe I can bring it back. If you're really serious about looking for someone, go where people do what you like to do...ie, if you like to go to museums, go to museums, join a group that likes to go to museums (that's the example, move on from that....) and so on. Get out. Join one of those dating sites. Who cares if someone you know sees you on there...unless your talking like a fuck site, then...yeah, maybe not your face on there. But if your looking for someone for a relationship, try Match.com or something. Just start going out and trying to meet more people. So you might go on some terrible dates, but maybe you won't. I dunno, easier said than done, I guess.
Sorry to hear about the cancer. Hope your doing better.
And, yep. Stay away from married men. Just brush them off. Ignore, all that and focus on yourself and your wants/needs. And hell yeah, if you want a hung man, go for it. Guys have preferences, don't even say you don't -- guys! -- so don't be critical.
Only thing I'd worry about - for you-- is how the hell can you tell if he's hung on a first, second or so on date?
But then again, maybe that would be the fun part of meeting Mr. Right.