*Not a dick size post* Question for the ladies

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by Average size guy, Oct 26, 2008.

  1. Average size guy

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    So my gf and I have been together for quite a while now. The sex was AWESOME for the longest time. Now it has slowed down of course. It is down to like twice a month now. When we do it, it is awesome. But how do I bring it back. It used to be every other day. I have been romantic, given massages, taking her out, talking about it, not talking about it, and nothing is making a difference. Any tips? I prefer ladies answers only. Thanks.
     
  2. B_Jennuine73

    B_Jennuine73 New Member

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    Sounds like you are trying some good ideas already.

    Most times a woman will retreat sexually if other things are going on in her life. How is your relationship other than the sex? Examine that. Women have a hard time having sex if they are upset with their partner.

    Or perhaps the newness has gone. Why don't you try something different? Do you watch porn, talk about fantasies? Try to make one of them come true for her.

    Good luck.
     
  3. bbblowme

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    Maybe she is fucking someone else? Sounds about right huh
     
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    D_Tinker Ball New Member

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    Twice a month? :confused:

    I'm feeling guilty when a let a day to pass without having sex with my gf...
     
  5. Average size guy

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    no other ladies have anything?
     
  6. AVERAGEMAN(GSR)

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    just see how her life is. idk what she does. then if you dont see an issue with that ask her straight up. 90% of a relationship is how truthful you are with your partner. the other 10% is what you really dont wanna tell em. some people like to keep something hidden
     
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    talk to her... is the only way to find out. If she reacks negatively she doesnt want you anymore and maybe has someone else in mind. Maybe is depression. Either way talk to her.
     
  8. Sweetangieoh

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    I would do what Jen said...See whats going on in your relationship. Or maybe you should just try talking to her. You are trying some wonderful ideas though. Is there a fantasie of her that you haven't done? Take care and I hope it all comes together!
     
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    I've been having the same problem with my boyfriend, but all previously mentioned ideas sound like good ones. I'll let you know what I try and we can compare notes. :)
     
  10. tmny

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    possibly seeing someone else..

    try not to be so accommodating towards her. go out with your friends more. make yourself a little more valuable to her, if you know what i mean.


    if she wants you, and starts to think you may be losing interest, she will try to win you back with sex
     
  11. 7x6

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    Women are all different. My girlfriend of two years never initiates it and claims to be "not interested in sex at all anymore". Luckily she habitually sits around on the couch dressed in nothing more than a tee shirt, giving me ample oportunity to casually stroke her ass, even stroke her pubes but she rarely responds sexually.

    She hates talking about sex, it always has to be spontaneous, never planned. Basically, initiating sex often consisted of softly trying to pull her legs apart, if she resisted, nothing was said, there was no "pervert" from her no "frigid bitch" from me, we just got on with our evening. if however she let her legs part I'd bury my face between them and 30 seconds later she'd be begging to be fucked.

    Recently the dynamic has changed a bit. She's rather less likely to part her legs but i'm rather more likely to pull them apart a little more forcefully and give her rather longer and rougher oral session leaving her really begging to be fucked. roughly. and held down...

    It's weird after two years to still have this negotiation. I'm rather more used to women who will let a cuddle or a kiss just escalate into a fuck but with them, the fuck was never as good as with my current girlfriend but at least it didn't feel like it was headed into rape fantasy territory...

    And then there was my marraige... a horrible little verbal communication: "do you fancy going to bed early?, no?, how about tomorrow?, cool" which is fucking shit and should be avoided at all costs.
     
  12. D_Teasdale Tittithorne

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    Preplanned sex should be avoided at all costs?
     
  13. B_Jennuine73

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    Pre-planned sex does suck. Unfortunately when you have kids, that's usually the way it's got to be until they are older :(
     
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    Wow! That is a bit more of a response than I got last time. We do live together and we do not have kids. We do spend a lot of time together also but there is Work and school for her, which she is almost done with the degree and for me, it is work and side work. Maybe there is too much going on and we are exhausted. The difference is though that I am a horny male and she is not so horny all the time like me. lol. Im sure this is not that rare of a situation, just trying to figure out ideas to get the job done. Thanks.
     
  15. D_Teasdale Tittithorne

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    I say cheat. :naughty:
     
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    Ok so I am kinda in the same situation. My boyfriend and I have been dating for four years and I just dont seem to want to have sex anymore. I have thought long and hard about it and actually tested out my theory so I hope it helps. My thing is I know that he always wants it, eventually it gets to the point that you feel like you are always on guard as a woman to fight it off, so somehow we get to the point where we are almost conditioned to not want it. The weird part is I do enjoy sex when I have it. What I have noticed is that if my BF shows no interest in it (at all, no mention, no hint, no sexual touching/innuendos) then at the end of the night or second night, I am all over him. I dont know why, but it never fails. The problem for my bf is that he cant typically go that long without a mentioning of sex.
     
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    I agree with other commenters about women not being interested in sex due to other stuff going on in their life. As you mentioned that she has school AND work. That is a lot.

    I know for me, a male, I like to relieve that stress by sex. Sex is a great stress reliever for males. But for females, maybe not as much. Men can go "I want sex" and have sex and forget everything else in life. Whereas women interconnect everything and they sometimes can't get into a sexual mood because they are too busy thinking about other things.

    I guess this picture represents my thoughts best on the situation...
    http://i62.photobucket.com/albums/h101/iluvnufc/knobs.gif
     
  18. hung15us

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    Men and women have the same problems with not wanting sex with their partner. When this happens there is a strain on the relationship. Sit down and talk. It will be hard to tell the other person what is the problem, but nip it in the butt now and get back where you had started.
     
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    HAHAHAHA, that picture is PERFECT!!!
     
  20. D_VictorVikkiTielVictoria

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    I'll never be able to understand women as to when they want sex and when they don't
     
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