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Hi. Aaron here. UK guy, aged 24.

I had an adult circumcision done 11 weeks ago. Now it's healed up my dick looks great. But I've got a big problem. I'm finding it almost impossible to ejaculate during sex. Obviously for the first month I couldn't have sex as it was sore and needed time to heal. The doctor then said it was fine to start having sex again. I have a gorgeous girlfriend and we fuck every night. Before my circumcision I would ejaculate after about 10 minutes, sometimes less than that. But now I'm pounding for ages, for over an hour sometimes and I'm not cumming. It's leaving me incredibly sexually frustrated. I'm having to go to sleep with a boner every night and I'm getting bad aches in my balls because I haven't ejaculated. I feel horny all the while. My girlfriend has tried sucking me off, I've tried masturbating to porn. I've also tried using tons of lube, but it is as if I've lost the trigger to ejaculate. I get so close and am convinced it's going to happen but then it doesn't.

My doctor says my dick looks fine, but that it can take a while to get used to being circumcised. I am thinking maybe it was the feeling from the foreskin which used to trigger an orgasm for me and now my body is going to take time to adjust to a different sensation.

In the 7 weeks since I resumed sex after my circ I've shot my load 3 times. That's 3 orgasms during nearly 50 fucks. That's not normal. I will say the feeling of those 3 orgasms was out of this world and the relief was massive.

Has this happened to anyone else? How long did it take for the body to adjust to no longer having a foreskin?

I'm thinking about buying a prostate massager. I'm not gay but I'm thinking if it makes me shoot a load I'll get rid of this sexual frustration.

Have any of you guys got any suggestions or advice?
 
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Many cut guys experience some loss of sensitivity. Depends on how much of the inner skin is removed, and whether the frenulum is removed. Is yours a high or a low cut? Loose or tight?

I think it's impossible to get back the same kind of ease of orgasm, but despite that, things improve with time and they cope pretty well.
 
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Many cut guys experience some loss of sensitivity. Depends on how much of the inner skin is removed, and whether the frenulum is removed. Is yours a high or a low cut? Loose or tight?

I think it's impossible to get back the same kind of ease of orgasm, but despite that, things improve with time and they cope pretty well.

Mine was a low cut, fairly tight in my opinion. The frenulum was removed.
 
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I was also circumcised as an adult, and I can tell you from my experience that it can take some time for your newly configured penis to send the proper signals to your brain. Give it some time and try not to stress about it. Things will settle over time and hopefully improve.

In the mean time, try masturbating with some lubrication by stroking the head of your penis slowly with your palm. Hopefully this can help you to relearn what it takes to trigger your orgasm.
 

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Hi. Aaron here. UK guy, aged 24.

I had an adult circumcision done 11 weeks ago. I've got a big problem. I'm finding it almost impossible to ejaculate during sex. I'm pounding for ages and I'm not cumming. It's leaving me incredibly sexually frustrated. it is as if I've lost the trigger to ejaculate. I get so close and am convinced it's going to happen but then it doesn't.

I'm thinking about buying a prostate massager. I'm not gay but I'm thinking if it makes me shoot a load I'll get rid of this sexual frustration.

Have any of you guys got any suggestions or advice?
That's actually not a bad idea at all. At lot of guys find that pressure on the prostate from a buttplug or similar makes orgasms feel more intense, or easier to achieve.

I'd recommend something like the Lelo Hugo. It's designed in such a way that it can be worn during sex, and as well as putting pressure on the prostate it provides really strong deep vibrations which should definitely help. It also comes with a remote to make it easier to control. It's not the cheapest thing out there, but given your predicament I think it would be worth a try.
 

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Hi. Aaron here. UK guy, aged 24.

I had an adult circumcision done 11 weeks ago. Now it's healed up my dick looks great. But I've got a big problem. I'm finding it almost impossible to ejaculate during sex. Obviously for the first month I couldn't have sex as it was sore and needed time to heal. The doctor then said it was fine to start having sex again. I have a gorgeous girlfriend and we fuck every night. Before my circumcision I would ejaculate after about 10 minutes, sometimes less than that. But now I'm pounding for ages, for over an hour sometimes and I'm not cumming. It's leaving me incredibly sexually frustrated. I'm having to go to sleep with a boner every night and I'm getting bad aches in my balls because I haven't ejaculated. I feel horny all the while. My girlfriend has tried sucking me off, I've tried masturbating to porn. I've also tried using tons of lube, but it is as if I've lost the trigger to ejaculate. I get so close and am convinced it's going to happen but then it doesn't.

My doctor says my dick looks fine, but that it can take a while to get used to being circumcised. I am thinking maybe it was the feeling from the foreskin which used to trigger an orgasm for me and now my body is going to take time to adjust to a different sensation.

In the 7 weeks since I resumed sex after my circ I've shot my load 3 times. That's 3 orgasms during nearly 50 fucks. That's not normal. I will say the feeling of those 3 orgasms was out of this world and the relief was massive.

Has this happened to anyone else? How long did it take for the body to adjust to no longer having a foreskin?

I'm thinking about buying a prostate massager. I'm not gay but I'm thinking if it makes me shoot a load I'll get rid of this sexual frustration.

Have any of you guys got any suggestions or advice?

Go for prostate assistance, it's not gay at all!!! I have dozens of prostate massagers and for solo play, it's out of this world. It will be a massive assist for you. Research the Aneros forums for "Super-T" or super traditional orgasm/ejaculation and you'll see what I mean as it being a "massive" assist. The most draining orgasms/ejaculations I've ever had come from having an Aneros in me while on my back. Plus, the toy in you will change the trigger for your orgasm and you may find that you will suddenly have to cum completely out of control whether you want to cum or not! It can come on suddenly and its very exciting.

I also use these toys (some, not all due to shape/size) while having sex with my wife. One really fun thing you could try with your girl is for her to give you a Lingam massage while the toy is in you. This kind of massage could be very wonderful for you right now since your recent circ. It's great without a prostate massager inside, but with it in there, OMG it's amazing! The goal of the Lingam massage is to not cum...however, it can be unavoidable to hold off, at which case this is EXACTLY what you are desiring now! You can wear an Aneros or other prostate massager while having sex, but they can easily fall out of you if you're on your knees, standing or in a missionary position that requires you to have your legs bent more than normal.

Keep us informed and PM me if you have any other Qs or comments/concerns! Good luck man
 

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Hi. Aaron here. UK guy, aged 24.

I had an adult circumcision done 11 weeks ago. Now it's healed up my dick looks great. But I've got a big problem. I'm finding it almost impossible to ejaculate during sex. Obviously for the first month I couldn't have sex as it was sore and needed time to heal. The doctor then said it was fine to start having sex again. I have a gorgeous girlfriend and we fuck every night. Before my circumcision I would ejaculate after about 10 minutes, sometimes less than that. But now I'm pounding for ages, for over an hour sometimes and I'm not cumming. It's leaving me incredibly sexually frustrated. I'm having to go to sleep with a boner every night and I'm getting bad aches in my balls because I haven't ejaculated. I feel horny all the while. My girlfriend has tried sucking me off, I've tried masturbating to porn. I've also tried using tons of lube, but it is as if I've lost the trigger to ejaculate. I get so close and am convinced it's going to happen but then it doesn't.

My doctor says my dick looks fine, but that it can take a while to get used to being circumcised. I am thinking maybe it was the feeling from the foreskin which used to trigger an orgasm for me and now my body is going to take time to adjust to a different sensation.

In the 7 weeks since I resumed sex after my circ I've shot my load 3 times. That's 3 orgasms during nearly 50 fucks. That's not normal. I will say the feeling of those 3 orgasms was out of this world and the relief was massive.

Has this happened to anyone else? How long did it take for the body to adjust to no longer having a foreskin?

I'm thinking about buying a prostate massager. I'm not gay but I'm thinking if it makes me shoot a load I'll get rid of this sexual frustration.

Have any of you guys got any suggestions or advice?

Hey buddy, I feel your frustration.

I was cut at the age of 20, and know exactly what you are going through, as I had some difficult times too - but I also had spectacular orgasms as well. Keep calm and don't panic, things will improve, and if you are anything like me you will now be able to pump away for as long as you like before shooting, or for as short as you like before shooting - the sensations will come back, but don't expect it to happen overnight.

I am lucky in that I can now regulate when I shoot, I have learned my 'new' cock sensations, and can adjust rhythm and intensity accordingly - please just give it time, and remember you can have an amazing orgasm without actually blowing your load - and remember that your body will soon do something to get rid of the jizz when it needs it to go - think erotic dreams etc.

Keep calm, enjoy your girlfriend, and don't always look for an ejaculation - there are plenty of other ways of having fun without jizzing.

best wishes!
 
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It's now 20 weeks since my circumcision and things aren't getting any better. I'm so sexually frustrated I'm at desperation point. I'm getting constant boners during the day and despite having sex almost every night I'm not ejaculating. I can't get used to the reduced feeling since my circ. Has anyone else experienced this? What the fuck can I do to sort it out and start cumming again?
 
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I went the other way and restored. I would have to agree that the sensation of the foreskin does trigger orgasm (not saying the only way obviously). But I will orgasm from just rolling the skin of the fren over my head after I’ve already came. I hope your body acclimates.

Try focusing on your head and use lube. You no longer work like an uncut dude, you need to rub your skin and head directly and not rely on slide.

When my dick operated like I was cut, I focused on the corona.

Cut or not, you shouldn’t need to manipulate your prostate.
 
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It's now 20 weeks since my circumcision and things aren't getting any better. I'm so sexually frustrated I'm at desperation point. I'm getting constant boners during the day and despite having sex almost every night I'm not ejaculating. I can't get used to the reduced feeling since my circ. Has anyone else experienced this? What the fuck can I do to sort it out and start cumming again?
Curse of being cut, you will get hard ons in your pants from just moving around, I would say that’s normal whether you get off or not.
 

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It's now 20 weeks since my circumcision and things aren't getting any better. I'm so sexually frustrated I'm at desperation point. I'm getting constant boners during the day and despite having sex almost every night I'm not ejaculating. I can't get used to the reduced feeling since my circ. Has anyone else experienced this? What the fuck can I do to sort it out and start cumming again?

First off, you are not taking any medication at the moment that could interfere? Some antidepressants have that sideffect that it makes difficult to reach orgasm.

Secondly, can you on your own masturbate to orgasm/ejaculation?

When having sex, does using a condom make any difference?

If the stress of this situation is getting to you, I can see that the added stress could play mindtricks on your sexlife.

If you feel the need for counselling or medical assesments, don´t hesitate to ask for it.
 
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First off, you are not taking any medication at the moment that could interfere? Some antidepressants have that sideffect that it makes difficult to reach orgasm.

Secondly, can you on your own masturbate to orgasm/ejaculation?

When having sex, does using a condom make any difference?

If the stress of this situation is getting to you, I can see that the added stress could play mindtricks on your sexlife.

If you feel the need for counselling or medical assesments, don´t hesitate to ask for it.

In answer to your questions:
No i'm not taking any medication.
I'm not cumming during sex or when I masturbate. I get close but it is as if I've lost the trigger to cum and release the tension.
I'm not using condoms during sex.
I'm not suffering stress. It is the sexual urges without release which is so bad. It's definitely a physical issue rather than psychological as I never once had any issues before I had my foreskin removed.
 

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It could be the low cut you have, it is the most radical circumcision. Concentrate on the head with lube stimulating it as hard and fast as possible whilst at the same time holding the shaft at the base to keep the skin as tight and pulled back as you can
 

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It could be the low cut you have, it is the most radical circumcision. Concentrate on the head with lube stimulating it as hard and fast as possible whilst at the same time holding the shaft at the base to keep the skin as tight and pulled back as you can

Radical? My surgeon said having the scar close to the glans would mean less chance of infection while it was heaiing. I also thought the scar would be less noticeable as near to the glans as possible.
It's the head which has lost sensitivity. I think this happened in the first few weeks after my circ. I've tried jerking while watching porn and using tons of lube. My dick is rock solid and I'm horny as hell but there is no sign of an orgasm. Not getting off is starting to make me feel aggressive and angry all the while. I'm so sexually frustrated. Has anyone got any suggestions?
 

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Radical? My surgeon said having the scar close to the glans would mean less chance of infection while it was heaiing. I also thought the scar would be less noticeable as near to the glans as possible.
It's the head which has lost sensitivity. I think this happened in the first few weeks after my circ. I've tried jerking while watching porn and using tons of lube. My dick is rock solid and I'm horny as hell but there is no sign of an orgasm. Not getting off is starting to make me feel aggressive and angry all the while. I'm so sexually frustrated. Has anyone got any suggestions?
If you lost sensitivity of the head then it might be dried out. It's important to moisturize the head at least once a day and especially after taking a bath/shower. Pure shea butter is the best or body/hand creams containing shea butter. You can even use them as a lube for jerking off.
 

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The inner skin that the doctor removed by placing the scar close to the glans is really sensitive. I can cum by rubbing it and not touching the head.

How much inner skin do you have left? If you have any try stroking it and the frenum area.

Why did you get cut?

In my view it sounds like your doctor doesn't understand the male anatomy. Low and tight with frenum removed is the most radical circumcision removing almost all of the sexually sensitive bits of your dick so no wonder you're having trouble getting off. Reduction in sensitivity of the glans is normal in all circs and gets worse over time but most cut men have some inner skin left which helps a lot.
 

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It might be that the surgeon damaged some of the glans nerves, they run along the shaft and are only just below the surface in the area just below the glans so while removing the inner skin he might have accidentally cut some, as what you are experiencing is not normal.

There's a video on the internet of a Spanish guy suffering premature ejaculation to save his relationship he gets a low tight cut and the doctor deliberately removes some of the nerve endings to desensitise his dick. It works and takes him ages to cum.

I would suggest you get a second medical opinion and ask them to check for damage to the nerves supplying the glans.
 

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If you lost sensitivity of the head then it might be dried out. It's important to moisturize the head at least once a day and especially after taking a bath/shower. Pure shea butter is the best or body/hand creams containing shea butter. You can even use them as a lube for jerking off.

Thanks. I'll try moisturizing the head and see if it makes any difference to sensitivity.