Not feeling anything?

3

331573

Guest
My boyfriend and I recently lost our virginity to each other. He is pretty big (8.5x6) so at first it hurt. A lot. It took trying for like a week and a half before I was able to take it all. Now I can do that with no pain, or at least very minimal pain sometimes, but honestly.. I don't really feel anything pleasurable, either. I can feel him enter me, which is a nice feeling, but after that it's pretty much nothing. He's given me great orgasms through oral and fingering before, but this is nowhere near that at all. I know most women can't orgasm through penetration alone, but I mean.. I don't even feel ANYthing good. Is this normal?

Could it be because of the position? We've only tried missionary and with me on top, but for some reason, I actually feel a lot more pain when I'm on top. I think it's just harder for me to relax that way.

Any advice?
 

StraightCock4Her

Experimental Member
Joined
Dec 30, 2007
Posts
900
Media
0
Likes
4
Points
103
Location
DFW, Texas
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
Try doggy style. See, it is a fallacy to think that a big cock is better for sex. It is only better for sex when a woman has an A spot that is very sensitive to the guy bottoming out inside her. And it has been my experience that a girl needs to be turned on well before she starts to respond well to bottoming out.

The main problem that I am hearing is that his head is not hitting your gspot at all which is causing an obvious lack of stimulation. A smaller cock would be hitting your gspot more frequently and thus cause you more frequent pleasure. He needs to try shallow fucking you and to aim upwards towards your gspot.

Also, he is not varying his entry angle to find your sensitive bottom spot. These are two things that are normal things men need to learn from experience. You need to guide him, tell him briefly during sex what feels good and what doesn't. He will learn eventually what he needs to do to please you. You also need to talk to him about this issue when you guys have finished having sex and you have both had time to chill for a while so he is less likely to be upset that you didn't have fun.

Any questions? Search for gspot and aspot on Wikipedia or Google, look around YouPorn.com Lite (BETA) - Porn ... Just do research and you'll find them yourself so you can teach him how to please you.
 

D_Brecock Evileye

Sexy Member
Joined
Sep 26, 2008
Posts
742
Media
0
Likes
37
Points
103
You also may be to tense and nervous. You need to be relaxed and turned on first. Foreplay is a must. Also if you try a rear entry position he can reach around and stimulate your clitorus manualy. Have fun trying.
 

D_Andy_Whorewall

Account Disabled
Joined
Aug 17, 2006
Posts
367
Media
0
Likes
47
Points
163
Sexuality
No Response
It took my wife years before she really enjoyed my penis...Now she knows exactly what she wants, how she wants it and is not at all afraid to let me know ! Practice, practice, practice.....
 

Not_Punny

Superior Member
Joined
Jul 7, 2007
Posts
5,464
Media
109
Likes
3,056
Points
258
Location
California
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Female
Hmmmm. Yes, some women only orgasm through clitoral stimulation, but that doesn't mean all women are that way.

In my opinion, it has to do with your "brain" -- if your only sexual pleasure has been oral stimulation, your brain and your G-spot might not be "in touch" with each other.

If I were you, I'd lay off the clitoral stimulation for a while.

I'd get a dildo (or use just your fingers) and masturbate ONLY with contact to your G-spot, and let you mind roam free with penetration and G-spot type fantasies.

In other words, re-wire your brain so that it "drools" at penile or G-spot stimulation.

(But lay off the clitoris for a while.)

All motor-nerve ability (even the acts of walking and scratching) takes a lot of practice.
 

StraightCock4Her

Experimental Member
Joined
Dec 30, 2007
Posts
900
Media
0
Likes
4
Points
103
Location
DFW, Texas
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
Hmmmm. Yes, some women only orgasm through clitoral stimulation, but that doesn't mean all women are that way.

In my opinion, it has to do with your "brain" -- if your only sexual pleasure has been oral stimulation, your brain and your G-spot might not be "in touch" with each other.

If I were you, I'd lay off the clitoral stimulation for a while.

I'd get a dildo (or use just your fingers) and masturbate ONLY with contact to your G-spot, and let you mind roam free with penetration and G-spot type fantasies.

In other words, re-wire your brain so that it "drools" at penile or G-spot stimulation.

(But lay off the clitoris for a while.)

All motor-nerve ability (even the acts of walking and scratching) takes a lot of practice.


Great advice
 

Principessa

Expert Member
Joined
Nov 22, 2006
Posts
18,660
Media
0
Likes
138
Points
193
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Female
My boyfriend and I recently lost our virginity to each other. He is pretty big (8.5x6) so at first it hurt. A lot. It took trying for like a week and a half before I was able to take it all. Now I can do that with no pain, or at least very minimal pain sometimes, but honestly.. I don't really feel anything pleasurable, either. I can feel him enter me, which is a nice feeling, but after that it's pretty much nothing. He's given me great orgasms through oral and fingering before, but this is nowhere near that at all. I know most women can't orgasm through penetration alone, but I mean.. I don't even feel ANYthing good. Is this normal?

Could it be because of the position? We've only tried missionary and with me on top, but for some reason, I actually feel a lot more pain when I'm on top. I think it's just harder for me to relax that way.

Any advice?

Men love to see us on top (cowgirl) because they are visual, but I've never cum that way and I've been having sex for decades now. :cool: It's true. relaxing in that position is hard because you often feel like you are doing all the work.

With a cock that big of course it hurts on top, especially since you are so new to sex. Y'all need to mix it up try different positions. Also you both need to know that he doesn't need to be balls deep to enjoy sex and that goes for you too. Try it in the spooning position.
 

captainamerica02

Sexy Member
Joined
Oct 1, 2008
Posts
22
Media
10
Likes
34
Points
233
Location
ohio
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
it's probably psychological. it took my girlfriend (who is pretty petite) quite some time to be comfortable with sex with me. she always expected getting hurt, and it became a self-fulfilling prophecy.

make sure not to expect to feel nothing, because if you do... you won't. maybe have a few drinks before you try next time so you can loosen up and just go with it.