Not into BI anymore?

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What people just don't get is that sexual orientation evolves over time for some (is malleable); for other it seems to be stay the same over time.


I just think we all need to stop univeralizing our experiences and just let others tell us who they are - not what we think or want them to be (no folks, not everyone is denial about their sexuality)!


I believe you, buddy, when you say you're just not into dick right now. Things may stay that way...who knows? Only you know what you like. And if others tell you are just in denial about your "gay" side, tell them they aren't you and that they must be in the Dark Ages of human sexuality knowledge.


I didn't like lesbian porn years ago, and now I love it!
 

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In my twenties, I considered myself exclusively gay. I just really had no interest in women beyond friendship. In my early thirties, I started thinking, "Hey, that looks like fun." I spent a number of years trying to deny it - "I'm gay! How can I be turned on by that?" - but eventually I accepted that yes, I do in fact find some women attractive in a sexual way, even if I do tend to prefer men in most cases.

Part of why I think it happened was that, at the time, I was bored with men. I'd had my fill, so to speak, and I'd just left a bad relationship with someone incredibly shallow (to the point of being a walking gay stereotype), so I was really looking for something else. After some "time away" however, my interest in men came back with a vengeance. So this is not necessarily a permanent situation, just where you are right now. As other people have said, the important thing is to acknowledge what you want and not try to fit someone else's labels. And if your interest changes again - which it very well might! - well, that just keeps life interesting, doesn't it? :)
 

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I'd had my fill, so to speak, and I'd just left a bad relationship with someone incredibly shallow (to the point of being a walking gay stereotype), so I was really looking for something else.


Did you have a bad relationship with an incredibly shallow woman (to the point of her being a walking female stereotype)?
 

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Just never understood how anyone (straight or gay) could feel secure in getting into a committed relationship with a bi person. How is the bi person supposed to be able to handle the act of monogamy and still feel satisfied sexually?
 

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In my twenties, I considered myself exclusively gay. I just really had no interest in women beyond friendship. In my early thirties, I started thinking, "Hey, that looks like fun." I spent a number of years trying to deny it - "I'm gay! How can I be turned on by that?" - but eventually I accepted that yes, I do in fact find some women attractive in a sexual way, even if I do tend to prefer men in most cases.

Part of why I think it happened was that, at the time, I was bored with men. I'd had my fill, so to speak, and I'd just left a bad relationship with someone incredibly shallow (to the point of being a walking gay stereotype), so I was really looking for something else. After some "time away" however, my interest in men came back with a vengeance. So this is not necessarily a permanent situation, just where you are right now. As other people have said, the important thing is to acknowledge what you want and not try to fit someone else's labels. And if your interest changes again - which it very well might! - well, that just keeps life interesting, doesn't it? :)

I used to be bisexual, but sometime in my early 30s I began to lose interest in guys. I haven't had the urge to do anything sexual with another man in some time.



I appreciate the honesty as I know you boys aren't "living in denial" about your true sexuality. You're showing the doubters that sexuality for some can be very malleable over time. People need to stop universalizing their experiences.

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