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If you're a minority, I'm sure this has happened to you. I'm sure it's happened to anyone of any race.

Say you're on LPSG, or Grindr, or Jack'd, or any social media and someone sends you a message without seeing your picture first. You chat and seem to hit it off. When you send them a pic of yourself, they don't respond back or reply with the following message. "Sorry! I'm not into "insert race/ethnicity here".

Another example, those people who post on their profile not into "insert race/ethnicity here".

Now, this is pretty annoying, frustrating, and saddening to me because I grew up in a predominantly white, middle to upper class area. Naturally, I'm a product of my environment and like most of the same things people I grew up around and with like. Those people just happen to be white.

On sites like this, dating sites, phone apps like Grindr, it's impossible to really get to know someone just by looking at their picture, but that's how many people base their conclusions about someone on these mediums.

I want to hear from you guys.

Are you one of these people who claim they're not into an entire race of people because of the color of their skin?

Are you like me and are getting tired of this bullshit?

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You like what you like. There's nothing wrong with that. Just as some like guys with big dicks and others small, or round boobs versus the pointy kind. And I wouldn't say it's a minority issue. There's tons of "I only like BBCs" going on out there. No harm done.
 

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During my brief Grindr stint I noticed a lot of "No Asians!" Some of the Asian guys joked about it. Seeing this had a strange effect on me; I'd never really been attracted to Asian guys and this prejudice acted as a mirror. So I set out to find a hot Asian to sleep with. I talked to a few and found a couple I liked but we never got together. The experience opened my mind but I met the guy I've been dating and never got together with either of the hot Asians.
 
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I can see how it would be frustrating but I think it is normal...I mean if you are talking about getting to know the person, hanging out I think you should/can be ope to whomever, but if it is just a hookup thing.. well people like what they like.
 

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I guess I get the "No Asians" a lot...but the funny thing is I'm horribly turned off by Asians. We can be friends but my sexual and emotional interests will always be towards the Caucasian race. Why? Not sure...maybe because white behaviours and appearances are 180 from Asians? Maybe. I just find a blonde haired and blue eyed man/woman soooooo damn attractive its what I like....but they don't like me back so...forever alone? Lol probably. :)
 

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I'm not a minority but there's nothing wrong with not being physically attracted to a certain attribute, whether that's skin colour, weight, height, eye colour, whatever. Everyone has their own physical preferences and unfortunately, no matter how much you mesh on a mental level, you need to be physically attracted to someone to form a sexual relationship.

It's only a problem if the person refuses to sleep with someone because a particular characteristic makes that person inferior or lesser in some way. That's discrimination not sexual preference.

There's a strange cognitive dissonance in society, where people accept that they don't choose their sexuality but think you can choose who to be attracted to beyond that.

I didn't choose to not be physically attracted to fat people or black people anymore than I chose not to be attracted to men. It just is.
 

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I cant really understand this thread, if you are not attracted to someone because of the colour of the skin so what? It has nothing to do with them as a person it's a sexual thing, I have a black mate who I would give my last penny but he would never be invited into my bed in a million years, I have lots of white mates who I think the same!
 

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personally i can't understand this attitude at all. if you like someone that's fine, if not then move on. but to have an prejudged opinion on an entire racial group is worrisome. i think it is verging on racism
 

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As a black man, I see what you're saying, but I can't agree.

I have been raised around mostly white people, I like white people, but I'm not sexually attracted to white men. Nor Asian men. It has nothing to do with their personalities, it's just not my thing.

I might date a white or Asian person, but I generally only masturbate to Black or Latino porn. There's a few exceptions to the rule, but that's just how it is. I'm turned on by the physical, not the personality.

I feel when it comes to strictly sex, the physical is the only thing that matters. I have befriended lots of people from different races, but I'm only sexually attracted to certain races.

It's very hard for me to explain. If someone told me their not into black guy sexually, it wouldn't hurt my feelings.
 

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In my case, and I suspect for many others, it is not a matter of a prejudged opinion that precludes the possibility of being attracted to any member of a particular race, but rather an observation that proportionally one tends to be notably less attracted to individuals of certain races than to the individuals of certain others.
 

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I'm not a minority but there's nothing wrong with not being physically attracted to a certain attribute, whether that's skin colour, weight, height, eye colour, whatever. Everyone has their own physical preferences and unfortunately, no matter how much you mesh on a mental level, you need to be physically attracted to someone to form a sexual relationship.

It's only a problem if the person refuses to sleep with someone because a particular characteristic makes that person inferior or lesser in some way. That's discrimination not sexual preference.

There's a strange cognitive dissonance in society, where people accept that they don't choose their sexuality but think you can choose who to be attracted to beyond that.

I didn't choose to not be physically attracted to fat people or black people anymore than I chose not to be attracted to men. It just is.

This is precisely what I wanted to post. Sexual preference is not something you have a "choice" with. What you have a choice with is respect outside of that.
 
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This is what I was originally going to post. "As much as you all can't agree with me, I can't agree with what most of you have said. Skin color really plays that big a role in your sexual attraction towards others? I just can't believe that to be true. Nope. Not one bit.

Now, what I can agree with is being more sexually attracted towards one race or attribute than another. I don't find many Asian men attractive, but I do find some attractive. I'm not going to go as far as saying I'm not into Asian men because that's not true, and I find it extremely hard to believe for anyone. you've never found one individual in your "no" list attractive? "

But then I looked at this issue from your angle. An angle I could relate to. I'm not attracted to large individuals. Nothing angainst those that a large, I'm just not attracted to them. I don't really think I've ever been attracted to anyone with a little extra weight. It may be because I'm slim.

Now if you can compare the original topic to this, I guess what you say makes sense and I can see where you are coming from. I'm ashamed to say that, but what can you do about what and who you are and aren't attracted to.
 
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oh wow, some people find black folk like yourself undesirable or are not attracted to your phenotype? Well maybe we should lead another million man march
 

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I am guilty of this (sorta) and have been victim of this. For me, it's more of a preference thing. I prefer white men and black women, but it's not a mandatory thing. But if my mission is to get off, I don't care who just don't be a fucking dud like my last sexual experience. ( http://www.lpsg.com/368916-bad-sexual-experience.html ). However, If I get, lets say 2 hits from craigslist and one of them is white, since white is my preference then thats what Im going to go for. But if they are all Black or Mexican or Asian, Im not about to suffer a night of blue balls because no white guys replied to my add.

Now after my recent "Bad sexual experience", I sat thinking about all of my bad sexual experiences with men, and they have all been black men, so it would be easy for me to say no black men, but like I said, the mission is to bust a nut, not a relationship so Im not about to turn anyone down if it means Im about to get my rocks off.