Not lasting as long as before.

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  1. toobig?

    toobig? New Member

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    When my girlfriend and I became physical at the beginning of our relationship, I was able to last a lot longer than I am now. I would last in the range of 55-60 minutes and sometimes it got to the point that she became uncomfortable.

    This has changed over the course of our close to 8 month relationship. I now can only last a good 5-10 minutes. I don't understand this decrease in my stamina, I don't take any medications or anything that could cause this. I am, of course, considerate to her feelings. I usually eat her out until she climaxes and then fuck her, because I would feel bad if she didn't get to enjoy it as well.

    I have heard about pulling out and licking her pussy whenever I feel like I am close, but I use magnums and the smell is pretty strong as some of you might know.

    This has never happened with any of my other girlfriends in the past. She says it makes her feel good that she can make me cum that quickly, but I still wish I could last longer. So does anybody have any advice as to what I could do?

    Oh and if it helps any, I am 19 years old.
     
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    Try a slower penetration.... by that, I mean.. don't fuck her full steam right away.. just go slow, and then speed up.. and then slow down..

    Vary in speed until you know you are both ready. Then blow your load.

    OH, or, blow a load before sex.. I always forget that one. IF you blow before sex.. it will take you longer to cum the second time.
     
  3. you could also try switching to climax control lubes & condoms ... Ive never used them but have heard that they really do work ... good luck
     
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    A couple of things. First at 19 you can't get enough sex, put another rubber on and do it again. Second, you can teach yourself to relax your butt muscles instead of tensing them. squeezing these muscles causes pressure on your prostate and makes you ejaculate. Third, while you are giving her oral have her press your pubic bone around the base of you dick. This will numb your urge to ejaculate but not numb an pleasure. Good Luck
     
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    I agree with endofsummer.

    Get yourself into the habit of continuing for a second round as soon as you can. With practice your refractory period may well reduce to zero. I have always had the 'problem' of coming very quickly, but the second climax takes a lot longer to arrive than the first.
     
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    One theory is that you are more now comfortable with each other, and thus are allowing yourself to be more aroused and excited by her and the sex. I agree that just going for round two right away (should be possible at your age) is the simplest solution--just keep slow pumping until you are ready to really go for it again--this will help keep her stimultion going as well--if you have a long refractory period, then use some of the many many techniques published for premature ejaculation. Most of all, don't WORRY so much about it--the more you worry, the worse your "problem", which isn;t a problem, becomes.
     
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    You know what is scary??

    I gave advice, which is easy to do when it isn't happening to you. However, now I am not having sex but anticipating it. When I masturbate lately, I get SO excited that I am having trouble keeping myself from cumming.

    What was once a great hour-long session, has now turned into having to actually stop and let the hardon die down a bit within 5-10 minutes...

    And here I thought that awkward puberty masturbation sessions were over.:rolleyes:

    Who has advice? It is to the point where thinking aobut other things doesnt' work, nor does slowing the jerking motion down.:eek: :biggrin1:
     
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    Your own advice Jeff, is equally applicable to you. If you have a short refractory period, then just go for seconds. If you do have a long refractory period, then recover, and go for seconds. If you don't have any deisre after you go for seconds, then practice some more tantric techniques---it's still mind over body. Rather than using your hands to work you up, flex and hold your pubocoxygeal muscles--do kegels--but really focus on intensifying the hold portion, and concentrate on the sensation. You can extend this and prolong the pleasure before you orgasm. I can still do this when I am in the mood, and orgasm without jacking. It's intense. Vary your technique to "confuse" the regular cycle--switch hands, for instance. It's all about changing the programming a bit. Face it, you are a sexy beast, and sometimes you are just too much, even for you, to contain.:biggrin1: Facetiousnous aside, there is my advice, for what it is worth.:smile:
     
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    Hello:

    When I reviewed your gallery I noted a lovely looking foreskine. Maybe you are using a condom. Maybe you should. I have used condoms for years and I know that how I place it on the penis makes a difference on my reaction time.

    If I choose to leave the foreskine covering the penis head, it will take a long time. It just depends on how long I want to stroke. Also, all great sexual activity is a mutual arrangement. Sometimes I play with various portions of the partners body and she also plays with mine. If we are working on a quickie we know how to speed up the pleasure portion and achieve orgasm.

    When we want to linger we know that adequate lube, hers and mine inside the condom can prolong the pleasure and the time.

    Experience can be fun.

    Additionally, attitude and health considerations may come into this "Not lasting as long as before!!"

    Life is wonderful and continues to be a learning experience.
     
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    Wow I didnt realize this was still going.

    Thank you everyone for your advice. It might have been a sense of feeling more comfortable with her. Sadly (or maybe not), we broke up last week. I guess I will see if maybe I was just too comfortable with her in a few months when I transfer to a non-commuting college.

    Also, the back to back thing might work as well...if the problem continues, I will definately try it because I can regain myself fairly shortly :)
     
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