Right, well here's the deal.. I've been seeing a guy for about a month now and he would be the first person I've ever dated.. Problem is that he lives like 2 hours away from here and that we don't see each other often. He probably comes down like every couple of weeks for work related stuff. I've seen him maybe 4/5 times? And like the title says I really don't know how this is going! So I thought I'd see what you lot thought about this :tongue:
Right well like I said we've seen each other a few times and each time I've had a pretty good time, it was nice chatting and sort of getting to know each other.
Thing is we don't seem to have that whole "contacting each other that often" sort of thing like most people seem to do.. We probably send a few texts to each other every couple of days or so. This doesn't particularly bother me, but according to people I've spoken to this is "odd" and there should be more interaction at the beginning... (Ok this might be a bit childish or something but I really don't know what I'm supposed to be expecting here) I should probably add that I haven't actually spoken to him about this and relationships and stuff, though I was planning to the next time we met up as I feel that it's more a face to face thing.
Right this brings to what happened this week. We were supposed to meet up on Monday but then on the day he had to cancel because of job stuff that he had to do in the evening. At that point I was thinking, ok fine I know he has a busy job and so left it at that. Then later on he texted to ask when I finished uni that day and that we could probably meet up for an hour or so which I agreed to. A few hours later I get another text saying that he couldn't make it because he got caught up in a meeting. So again I figured...alright then and left it again.
I sent him a couple of texts after that asking when he was free to meet up again as he would be here for a few days. But I didn't get a reply til Wednesday just saying that he was sorry that he hasnt been in touch and that work has been really busy. He did however ask if we could meet up on Thursday morning before I had to go to uni so I agreed, and he said he would let me know in the morning when he could meet up. Morning came and nothing until the time I had to leave saying that he couldn't make it..and that soon he'd have to go back to where he lives
So yeah I've been cancelled on a lot this week and haven't really felt particularly great about it so I figured I'd chat to a friend of mine. She reckons that this probably isn't worth the effort, which to an extent I agree. She pointed out things like he might not be looking for a relationship, isn't that interested, that no matter how busy you are at work you can just send a single text at some point etc.. I'm not so sure about some of this stuff as obviously I need to talk to him about it.
I did get a call today (to my surprise) from him apologising for not being able to meet up and that he has been pretty much non stop. He said he might be back next week but he said he would let me know about meeting up closer to the time as he didn't want to make any more promises that he wouldn't be able to keep.
So yeah I don't really know what is happening here. I get that he has a high demanding career and lives far away, but should I be expecting more from this? I'm getting mixed signals about how interested he is with the (lack of) texts and random call (which seem to suggest interest..?)
What are your views?
(Apologies for the essay..!)
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Right well like I said we've seen each other a few times and each time I've had a pretty good time, it was nice chatting and sort of getting to know each other.
Thing is we don't seem to have that whole "contacting each other that often" sort of thing like most people seem to do.. We probably send a few texts to each other every couple of days or so. This doesn't particularly bother me, but according to people I've spoken to this is "odd" and there should be more interaction at the beginning... (Ok this might be a bit childish or something but I really don't know what I'm supposed to be expecting here) I should probably add that I haven't actually spoken to him about this and relationships and stuff, though I was planning to the next time we met up as I feel that it's more a face to face thing.
Right this brings to what happened this week. We were supposed to meet up on Monday but then on the day he had to cancel because of job stuff that he had to do in the evening. At that point I was thinking, ok fine I know he has a busy job and so left it at that. Then later on he texted to ask when I finished uni that day and that we could probably meet up for an hour or so which I agreed to. A few hours later I get another text saying that he couldn't make it because he got caught up in a meeting. So again I figured...alright then and left it again.
I sent him a couple of texts after that asking when he was free to meet up again as he would be here for a few days. But I didn't get a reply til Wednesday just saying that he was sorry that he hasnt been in touch and that work has been really busy. He did however ask if we could meet up on Thursday morning before I had to go to uni so I agreed, and he said he would let me know in the morning when he could meet up. Morning came and nothing until the time I had to leave saying that he couldn't make it..and that soon he'd have to go back to where he lives
So yeah I've been cancelled on a lot this week and haven't really felt particularly great about it so I figured I'd chat to a friend of mine. She reckons that this probably isn't worth the effort, which to an extent I agree. She pointed out things like he might not be looking for a relationship, isn't that interested, that no matter how busy you are at work you can just send a single text at some point etc.. I'm not so sure about some of this stuff as obviously I need to talk to him about it.
I did get a call today (to my surprise) from him apologising for not being able to meet up and that he has been pretty much non stop. He said he might be back next week but he said he would let me know about meeting up closer to the time as he didn't want to make any more promises that he wouldn't be able to keep.
So yeah I don't really know what is happening here. I get that he has a high demanding career and lives far away, but should I be expecting more from this? I'm getting mixed signals about how interested he is with the (lack of) texts and random call (which seem to suggest interest..?)
What are your views?
(Apologies for the essay..!)
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