Not sure if im gay

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So for 6 years now I've been battling myself 1 day im gay the next im straight, I'm sexualy attracted to guys but love how girls look , I've had sex with 1 guy and loved it but felt guilty afterwards and ashamed , I haven't since, I watch gay porn I love it but after I cum it's feel guilty and not gay!? I'm not sure what's going on if it's denial or what!! Any help would be great
 

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I’ll let others chime in and help you establish your sexual orientation, but I just wanted to give you the friendly advice of not being ashamed of what you get off to. You never made the choice to enjoy gay porn or having sex with another man, so please don’t be hard on yourself for what you don’t control. I hope this helps, even if it’s just a little bit.
 

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I’ll let others chime in and help you establish your sexual orientation, but I just wanted to give you the friendly advice of not being ashamed of what you get off to. You never made the choice to enjoy gay porn or having sex with another man, so please don’t be hard on yourself for what you don’t control. I hope this helps, even if it’s just a little bit.
Thank you !! That's true I just idk why I'm having a hard time
 

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Thank you !! That's true I just idk why I'm having a hard time
It’s a tough transition to go from very private thoughts about what you find attractive and what turns you on to acting on them in a way that reveals your thoughts to others.
 

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There is no need to feel ashamed, and there is also no reason for you to label yourself. Sexuality is fluid, maybe you're just on that spectrum. Just do and enjoy yourself and your sex life. Goodluck
Thanks I guess I'm just nervous !!
 

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I felt the same way before... the guilt would hit me like a bag pf bricks after i would do something i thought i shouldn't. I stopped feeling that way after i realized i was only putting the guilt and pressure on myself. i know what i am, and i enjoy being myself. I still have sex with both males and females... and i keep my life private. If anyone finds out what i like, i don't hide it. It allows myself to be free and not worried about labels. Go get some ass, learn to enjoy doing what feels right to you! everything else eventually falls into place
 

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I would say all of these kind of feelings are completely normal, so don't worry about throwing an axe at that tree. We are lead to believe that sexuality is rigid and stale while sex is automatic. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Your sense of self will change over time, including your sexual identity. People that expect their sense of self to be exactly the same from when they are 18 to when they are 28 have no real sense of the world they inhabit.

Change is constant, contentment is captured.

The fact of the matter is, sexual attraction is a learned behavior/trait, i.e. not automatic, rigid, or stale. What you find sexy depends on whom you have sex with and why. Never had a positive sexual experience in your life?? You probably aren't very fond of sex. You might not even find anyone attractive in any form whatsoever. It's plausible.

Yet the more supportive and reaffirming sexual experiences you garner within relationships you consider to be worth the effort, the more confident you will become in your sexual identity...be it gay, straight, bisexual, or something else entirely. The more attraction you will feel towards the people around you, and the easier it will become to build constructive and satisfying relationships.

After all, making love is the most physically intimate you can become with another human being, right? With this in mind, I posit that it's impossible to completely separate your sexuality from your ability to form strong relationships/communities.

What I'm saying is that it's not about the label your apply to your sexuality, but the activities, thoughts, feelings, wants, and conversations you experience within it. Sexuality is about experiences & your life journey. So have fun with it; you only get to live once!

LET IT FLOW MAN! Also, you wanna make out?? ;):eek::cool:
 

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Nick don’t beat yourself up whatever sexual Orientation you may have. As another has already said we don’t control what we were created to be. I was raised in a very strict household. I am so thankful that I have enough sense to know that everything I was taught to believe simply is not true. With no disrespect to my parents, they meant well!
 
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There's no such thing as a totally straight or gay person and there's heaps of research to back that up. Human sexuality is a spectrum and everyone has bisexual/sexually fluid tendencies to some degree.

With more people (particularly millennials) identifying as bisexual/sexually fluid/pansexual etc... identifying as monosexual (e.g. gay or straight) will be the minority in the future.
 
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I thought that to but I don't enjoy sex with females I love how they look but I never get like turned on if that makes sense

“I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted – romantically and/or sexually – to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.” - Robyn Ochs
 
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