I would say all of these kind of feelings are completely normal, so don't worry about throwing an axe at that tree. We are lead to believe that sexuality is rigid and stale while sex is automatic. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Your sense of self will change over time, including your sexual identity. People that expect their sense of self to be exactly the same from when they are 18 to when they are 28 have no real sense of the world they inhabit.
Change is constant, contentment is captured.
The fact of the matter is, sexual attraction is a learned behavior/trait, i.e. not automatic, rigid, or stale. What you find sexy depends on whom you have sex with and why. Never had a positive sexual experience in your life?? You probably aren't very fond of sex. You might not even find anyone attractive in any form whatsoever. It's plausible.
Yet the more supportive and reaffirming sexual experiences you garner within relationships you consider to be worth the effort, the more confident you will become in your sexual identity...be it gay, straight, bisexual, or something else entirely. The more attraction you will feel towards the people around you, and the easier it will become to build constructive and satisfying relationships.
After all, making love is the most physically intimate you can become with another human being, right? With this in mind, I posit that it's impossible to completely separate your sexuality from your ability to form strong relationships/communities.
What I'm saying is that it's not about the label your apply to your sexuality, but the activities, thoughts, feelings, wants, and conversations you experience within it. Sexuality is about experiences & your life journey. So have fun with it; you only get to live once!
LET IT FLOW MAN! Also, you wanna make out??


