Hi everyone, im new here, 21 year old guy. i was just wondering, do you guys think its odd to feel guilty over sex or anything for that matter? This sounds like a joke but its not. When i talk to girls etc...and i want to fool around or whatever, im not saying im a ladies man, but am good with words cause of the career i have been in. but anyhoo, when i talk and they finally want to kiss or whatever i feel really guilty like im doing something wrong. I dont have any abuse or anything from long ago or anything, just a "normal" guy. Ive always been like this, and i really hate it when people call me "gay" (im for anyone doing whatever they want by the way and dont hate anyone), and i take offense to that because im not attracted to guys in a sexual way. Especially girls saying this, even some of my older friends say that, like 40+ years old. I dont know what the problem is, im not in a rush to have sex and i dont have to do anything anyone tells me to but i dont want to be the guy that gets called the 40 year old virgin Im not religious or anything, ive always done what i wanted in life, but i feel literally guilty. One part is i dont just want to have sex, but i want a relationship, or someone to settle down with, not just casual sex. But i cant even be myself cause apparently women want a guy who isnt clingy cause they think its weakness or whatever, but i want to do what i want, i shouldnt have to go by what all the other people think right? Example, i went to the strip club and my friends bought me a lap dance, it was nice but i feel guilty doing that too. Like i did something really wrong. this probably dont belong on this board but nobody takes me serious elsewhere. What do you guys think? Thanks for your input by the way. i learned some great stuff from this site.