not sure who to trust

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Basically, i am a bit gutted.

If anyone has read any of my previous posts (not that I post that many) you might notice I'm publicly very outgoing, but im actually a very shy and quite introvert kind of chap.

However i Recently met a guy online which I stupidly thought we were getting to know each other and becoming friends.

After several months of opening up, all of a sudden he decided to announce that actually he was not bothered about me at all, just my cock!

I've not heard from him since.

I'm actually broken. Totally broken, I don't know how I feel about opening up to others,or anything in fact.

I'm obviously an idiot.
 
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Sorry that happened. Lots of us have met people like this...maybe it was a guy's big dick, maybe its a woman's tits, maybe its a bank account, or a lifestyle ...it hurts all of us.

I hope you don't give up on trusting others. Some of us go out of our way to overcompensate for jerks like the one you met. Be careful who you open up to, listen to what they say, watch what they do (actions speak louder than words)...but some of us are real, in which case I hope you can trust again.
 

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unfortunately that"s people for you. but it's a bit like learning to ride a bicycle - when you fall off just get straight back on again. don't take it personally - it says more about them than you. rise above it and look forward, not back
 

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Hey guys,

Thanks for the comments, and its helped allot.

I have to be frank, this post was the product of feeling low after going out for a couple of beers and mates syphening off rather quickly.

I should really wait until the morning before posting!

After 7 hours good sleep I'm feeling much better.....

So I apologise for the alcohol fuelled emotion.
 

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Xtreme, you're not an idiot.

You've just joined the rest of us at the table.

No matter how careful you are, someone, somewhere, is going to come up and get behind our walls and do exactly what this asshat did.

I'm glad you are now feeling better.

Sklar
 

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Sorry, I met many guys who were just real assholes. Sadly the world is full of them. I know it sucks but there are good people out there.
 

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Never think the uncaring actions of others has anything to do with you. Unfortunately getting hurt like that is part of caring and opening up to other people but you just have to remember that it's always better than the alternative. You don't want to go through life totally closed in behind walls of your own making...at least I don't.
 

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Cheers lads! Your support - as always is great! :)

Honestly though - this chap IS a nice guy, I guess I was just nieave, and we were looking for different things! I don't think he thought that I actually started to see him as a mate and actually felt close! Again, its my fault really!

I'm on here mostly for advice and talk about stuff with other guys in an open way, its not like you can open conversations about accommodating underwear with your mates over a coffee!?!

But I'm really also after mates. I have (again after a blip last year) quite a demanding job again and its difficult to get to know people offline sometimes....

I know some of you that have responded are already in direct contact and if you are looking to expand your online mates, I might be your man lol!

Right not one to normally go drinking two nights on the run, but I have had a very tough day, I need a couple of beers!

Cheers again for the support - its great - and really appreciated !!!