I understand Dee's point of view.
It was hard for me to relate to the kind of gay man
that is effeminate, when i first grappled with
my own sexuality, and ventured into the gay world.
There were lots of masculine gay guys like me, but
they didnt stand out in the crowd....the flamboyant
and effeminate ones did, though.
I asked myself over and over again,
why those mannerisms bothered me.
For me, it was because they seemed to wear their
sexuality on their sleeve.
My sexuality is a part of me, but not the sum total.
I am masculine,
and I am attracted to masculinity.
So, the effeminate gay guy does not attract me,
but he does not bother or disturb me in any way any more.
His experience is just different
from mine.
We are not all alike,
gay or straight,
and it took me a long time to be comfortable with the fact
that we do not all fit into one mold.