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I'm wondering how many of you hung guys have had someone compliment your size by saying something like, "Well that's nothing to be ashamed about." I've had a few people say this to me before. I used to take it as a compliment, but the more I think about it, it seems like a problematic phrase. The implication seems to be that if I didn't have a big cock, then I should feel shame about showing it to other people. I think there are ways of complimenting someone's size without inadvertently putting down guys who are smaller.
I've also heard a similar sentiment when it comes to being nude. I've heard from people I know and read online remarks like, "It's ok to be nude / wear a speedo if you've got the body for it." The implication is similar, that as long as you are fit and attractive, it's ok to show off, but if you're not, you should feel ashamed and hide your body.
I personally think we should be doing what we can to eliminate shame over bodies and penis size. I think comments like these reinforce oppressive notions of beauty.
Have you heard people say these sorts of things before? Or have you said them yourself? Do you think these sorts of statements are problematic? I'm curious to hear your thoughts.
I've also heard a similar sentiment when it comes to being nude. I've heard from people I know and read online remarks like, "It's ok to be nude / wear a speedo if you've got the body for it." The implication is similar, that as long as you are fit and attractive, it's ok to show off, but if you're not, you should feel ashamed and hide your body.
I personally think we should be doing what we can to eliminate shame over bodies and penis size. I think comments like these reinforce oppressive notions of beauty.
Have you heard people say these sorts of things before? Or have you said them yourself? Do you think these sorts of statements are problematic? I'm curious to hear your thoughts.