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Guns never solved everything. He may have been within his rights to ground her and deprive her of the computer for recreational uses, but he can stuff his $130 and if he's half a dad he'll get the kid a new laptop, a nice one, and will apologize to her.

And get rid of that fucking gun.
 

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adWhile I was watching the news last night---this video was on. One of the most watched videos on U-Tube. There was no discussion about the video--that had "all the usual parental experts." Just a "dad goes nuts at daughters laptop" story.

I posted the video on my FB page. Below is an edited reply from a friend.

""In some states a person can get emancipated from their parents at age 16. I wish I could help her do that. "Although it is far below the ideal, when someone is abused it is only human to retaliate. But when a person who is abusive to vulnerable people--like the children who are dependent on them for kindness,-- this is actually the symptom of a truly evil person."


After rewatching the video I have mixed feelings.
 
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Would it have been funny if he got on the video, made his spiel, and then at the end, said, OK, because of all of that, this laptop is going on Ebay, with an opening bid of XXX?

Would that have worked?
 

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Dipshit cracker going all yosemite sam over his daughter whining online. Teaching her to solve her anger issues with firearms...

I hope she laughs at him and points out how she might just have to tell family services she felt threatened by his violent response.

Perhaps he should have tried parenting her about 12 years earlier... y'know, when he and her mother were still married?
 

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It would have at least been funny then.

Handguns are lame. People who believe handguns are a solution to the failings as parents are ultra-lame.

Would it have been funny if he got on the video, made his spiel, and then at the end, said, OK, because of all of that, this laptop is going on Ebay, with an opening bid of XXX?

Would that have worked?



hitting with a fish would be funny if it was rubber---like a rubber chicken.

and, starting bids on ebay--would have been cool.
 

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I have a child that is over 16... a very intelligent, strong-willed, and independent child.

I've been there with the attitude, rebellion and disrespect.
It's all about children becoming adults and trying to "spread their wings"
Strong wills and independence are great character traits for adults... but children have to go through so many "learning" opportunities before these traits become an asset. It really helped me a great deal to have a partner to help discuss and implement discipline.

Of course, she is her father's daughter, in that he dealt with her issues the same way she wrote about her feelings.

IMO, cursing with anger while trying to teach children behavior techniques is parent-fail. Using a gun to make a point is major parent-fail.
Knee-jerk reactions to your children's misbehavior .... parent-fail.

There is a page of follow up where he explains (or attempts) his position in using the gun. He said he had committed this act of similar disrespect earlier using the computer and he told her "next time I'll put a bullet through it." (This threat is out of line... I agree with those who said it is teaching her how to solve her problems.) He felt he had no choice but to follow through with his threat.

Parenting does not come with a "HOW TO" manual, and until you find yourself in a specific situation, it is easy to say "I'd never..." All of the specialists that write books contradict each other with their "expert opinions" so ultimately, raising your child is left to what you know. Sadly, many parents never try to seek options.

Anger management? Yes, they both need it.
Conflict resolution... absolutely, the dad is missing the point on this one as well.

The follow up also indicated that dad and daughter sad down and read all the responses, some positive and some negative. They discussed them together. The daughter had her crying fit, and the next day was over it. Let's hope so... Let's hope so.
 
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