Hmmm. This is really a silly topic.
I was with you until you got to 5,000.:redface::tongue: I know men who have easily had sexual contact with twice that number; but I ain't sleeping with them.As long as the girl or guy is safe and healthy, treats you properly, the way you want/need to be treated, it doesn't matter if they've slept with 5 or 5000.
:yup:Not only that...it's about the 2347845th iteration of this silly topic.
Hmmm, I don't recall seeing one from this particular angle. But then again, I don't see everything.
Okay, Sister Mary Sunshine.In any case, there's no need to be mean to the OP.
What does squicked mean?I wouldn't say there's a specific number where I feel judgemental or squicked, but I won't pretend that I never am.Yeah, those are good points.It's very situational, though. I'm more likely to be negatively struck by someone's number of sex partners if I witness a high rate of turnover accompanied by drama or negativity. If I just hear that "In the past I've slept with X number of people", unless it's so many that I'm left doing mental "that's how many a day for how many years?" math, it probably won't make a negative impression.
True, but it's always the other person asking the question that has the problem with any answer in my opinion.I agree.A very low number is enough to make me squicky if they speak disrespectfully of their partners.
I am a bit uncomfortable discussing sex or relationships with the very inexperienced. I'm happy with my own experience, and I have a lot of trouble relating to happy virgins or people who married their high school sweetheart and had no other sexual intimacy. I wish them well, and I respect their choices, DITTO! While extremely flattering to encounter a male virgin online who lusts for me. I think I'd be a little freaked out to encounter one in my bed. :redface: but I know that if I'd followed the path they did I'd be miserable, so it's hard to find common ground.
Yes! So am I.I'm much more comfortable discussing sex with someone who's had three or four or five times as many sex partners as I have than someone who's had none.
I concur.Generally when I am left feeling judgemental or squicked out by someone's sexual history, it's not because of the raw number of partners involved, but because of what the specific content of the number reveals about their social skills and interpersonal responsibility.
Thank You! That makes sense. I've had sex with 12 men and regret at least 5 of them. :frown1: If a guy has 300 partners and loves every bit of it, without regret... then 300 is an acceptable number for him.]I think an acceptable number is whatever the person deems acceptable to them. If a woman has had two partners and thinks she has had to many and regrets one of them, then two isn't acceptable for her.
Nope, I've never heard that either.I've heard people say men are lauded or celebrated for having had many partners. But I've never heard a woman say "That guy slept with 10 women last month. I want him bad!" I'm pretty naive, so maybe women would want him more.
Absolutely!I don't think there is a particular number of partners someone should have. But I do think that their relationship history can sometimes predict their future.
I agree; but there is a limit for me. Who is to say that the man with only 30 partners isn't more sexually aware and experienced than the man with 300 partners?The more sexually experienced, or more specifically, the more sexually self aware, the better for me. Reading Dr. Ruth and watching day time TV doesn't count.
As do I. What it really shows is insecurity and low sexual self-esteem. That is NOT attractive.I think to even ask or be asked that question shows the very worst of manners.
Not necessarily. The worst lover I ever had was a 51 yr.old Sicilian American guy who boasted of having had sex with over 100 women. Technically he was experienced.What does it matter so long as their disease status is clear? Apparently I'm a prude, as many people have told me in recent weeks. Once you get into triple digits I believe it says something about your character. Such as: Why are you unable to maintain a committed and exclusive relationship? Are you a sex addict? What if anything have you learned from all these encounters? Is this man even capable of love? etc., etc.
The first time you have sex with a partner it will become evident if they are experienced or not.