this is a question that can only be answered with experiance. me and my gf have only started having sex, each of us being the first time, and its not so good. when we do it, we always have lots of foreplay but with penetration, apart from small discomfort at the start she doesnt feel anything. im not big by any means, by shes rather small considering i easily fill her. she says that at the moment its more a numbness which she says will turn into pleasure soon enough but it really puts me off and in the end i cant come. i nkow im fiilling her up as if i go deepish im hitting her cervix and it hurts. if im able to reach everywhere, why is she feeling nothing? is she right or am i just lousy? we've only done it 3 times though so am i just fretting or is there an issue. i really want to solve this as id rather not have sex if i cant please her and i want her to enjoy it as much as i do.