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B_NineInchCock_160IQ

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overall good post, Riven, but I hope you're not saying that the root of all viking's problems with women lie in his moustache. Maybe that's a component. I have two friends my age (27) and they are both still virgins. One has never had a girlfriend in his life, the other has had one official girlfriend and a few other "dates" with girls he had ambiguously defined relationships that never became romantic or sexual. Both have multiple different issues with approaching and dealing with members of the opposite sex... correcting them all would be complicated. Having been there myself... I know that anyone who tries to attribute these failures to one thing and anyone who says that there is any one thing (outside of certain levels of fame and money) that will net you attention from women is full of shit. It's not as simple as we'd like it to be.

There are myriad different factors that go into the successful negotiation of new relationships. Personal grooming habits and the preconceptions that others will form about you based on your age are just two among many. If anyone is having trouble, from personal experience I suggest that a holistic approach by far works the best. This takes time and commitment, as results will likely be slow to come. For myself, I decided it was worth the effort, and I am still working at it.
 

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Haha. =) Thanks for the perspective, DC. I was wondering about that.... in the straight dating world... there is almost overwhelming pressure for guys to date women younger than they are and vice versa (though not too much younger, heaven forbid). Obviously I don't have any qualms about going after women who are my senior... is there any kind of rule set about this in the homosexual dating world? Do butch guys have to date younger twinks?
I hang with a different crowd these days. They are much more honest, open, and accepting, and much less superficial.

It always made me wonder, though... how some of these people think that could actually work - if EVERYONE dates someone younger... well, ya know, if there's an age difference, at least ONE of the two has to be older. I never let it bother me, though. Anyone that shallow or fixated is not really my idea of a perfect match.

And although you and I have had only a friendship, and not a sexual thing going on, you seem to be the exception among your age group. With time I think we could have developed a pretty good, pretty solid friendship despite our age difference.
 

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overall good post, Riven, but I hope you're not saying that the root of all viking's problems with women lie in his moustache. Maybe that's a component. I have two friends my age (27) and they are both still virgins. One has never had a girlfriend in his life, the other has had one official girlfriend and a few other "dates" with girls he had ambiguously defined relationships that never became romantic or sexual. Both have multiple different issues with approaching and dealing with members of the opposite sex... correcting them all would be complicated. Having been there myself... I know that anyone who tries to attribute these failures to one thing and anyone who says that there is any one thing (outside of certain levels of fame and money) that will net you attention from women is full of shit. It's not as simple as we'd like it to be.

There are myriad different factors that go into the successful negotiation of new relationships. Personal grooming habits and the preconceptions that others will form about you based on your age are just two among many. If anyone is having trouble, from personal experience I suggest that a holistic approach by far works the best. This takes time and commitment, as results will likely be slow to come. For myself, I decided it was worth the effort, and I am still working at it.

I'm not suggesting for a moment that the moustache is the root of all his problems - but do you think he should lose it anyway? And I completely agree with the rest of your post.
 

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I'm not suggesting for a moment that the moustache is the root of all his problems - but do you think he should lose it anyway? And I completely agree with the rest of your post.

IMO a changing up one's appearance is almost always a good thing. Facial hair especially is easy to regrow and experiment with, provided you don't have a long beard. Anyway... I doubt that it would hurt.
 

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And yet in their teens, you hear about girls going for older men... I don't care if you're five or so years older than I... As long as you treat me right and we have enough in common... (hey c'mon, I'm 19 and I still watch cartoons...)
 

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I used to get ID'd all the time. Then I grew some fuzz and I don't get ID'd. People even say I look older and...sexier! :tongue:

But anyway go for 24 year olds. The usual gap is three years. I've dated women (a woman) four years older than myself. 'Sall good.

And at least you're finding women! Oh and if you have a tash yeah remove it. It makes you look like the plumber from a 70's porno. Even stubble you have to have trimmed/short cos girls don't like the rash.
 

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I like you poem, NineInchCock_160IQ, and I dare say I know what you mean. Having passed the age of 40, I have decided my only option these days is to lie about my age. It works well enough when it is dark enough....

Meanwhile, Happy Birthday.
 

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I have decided my only option these days is to lie about my age. It works well enough when it is dark enough.....

haha.

but what about girls who think you are perfectly good looking until they find out you are 40 and then all of a sudden you look older than you did before? do you ever get that?
 

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haha.

but what about girls who think you are perfectly good looking until they find out you are 40 and then all of a sudden you look older than you did before? do you ever get that?

:smile: hadn't happened because I tend to go for one night stands (shame) and I lie through my teeth! Yes, I am all ready to rot in hell for it.....

By the way, I hope you enjoyed your birthday.
 

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Don't worry DC, I'm 35 and get plenty of that "two headed monster" look from guys that are younger. It used to bother me, but now, I don't care all that much. It's a shame though. I aged to 35, but never grew mentally past 25. Hmm..could be why I'm having trouble at home.
 

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It's funny... I've dated women much older than me and much younger than me. I think my age was always more of a concern to me than it was to the younger ones. And only one of the older women kept bringing up her age as an issue.

So I'd say I'm more fixated on numbers than nearly all of my partners were.
 

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not really. 27's not a bad age at all. *SNIP* Tewnty-seven was such a good year for me, I didn't turn 28 for 7 years. :tongue::smile:
Besides, I'll be 28 on Tuesday. haha.That explains a lot, you're a taurus!:cool:

but what about girls or guys who think you are perfectly good looking until they find out you are 40 and then all of a sudden you look older than you did before? do you ever get that?
I have, but only from men I encountered online and they were all over 35 .
 

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Wow, this is odd...

I just turned 20 and I typically go for guys who are between 24-32.... so being 27 would not make me think you were a pervert or an old guy...