My best friends lover died last Tuesday. :frown1: They had been together just over 20 years. I was reading his obit and was some what irked by the fact the obit referred to my friend as the deceaseds "dear friend". Has this replaced "longtime companion" as the PC term for gay lover? If so I will accept it, as I have no choice. It just seems so benign and not at all accurate. Of course they were best friends; but they were so much more than that as well. I dunno maybe it's my own inability to deal with his sudden passing.:frown1: I swear they worded the obituary so that he sounded straight. :12: Which is stupid because he was out at work and he worked in education. EVERYONE loved him! My question after all that rambling, is what is the correct way to refer to a gay persons lover in an obituary?