Observations I have made on LPSG.

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Says who? What makes you think my previous gallery was genuine?

All my posts may have been a facade. :smile:



I'm sorry, I'm relatively new here so I don't know if it's my place to say this but I think this is messed up. When I first joined no strings was one of the first members I ran across. Straight or not, I found "him" attractive. Looking into "his" profile I found "him" to be intriguing and by following "his" threads I found "him" to be charismatic, intelligent and a pretty great "guy". were we friends? did we talk? No but I was still a fan and all the build up over the past week by everyone just reinforced that. I've wondered why over the past week no strings profile has slowly changed and now it makes more sense. I guess whether you truely are him or truely are her is not really the point. The point would be that there was a lot of build up over a facade which I find both discouraging and disheartening. So when it comes down to it what I'm trying to say is thak you. You were responsible for both my initial, positive impression of this site as well as my first negative impression. Again, sorry. Guess I felt the need to speak my mind as well.
 

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They may say they hate you and they may start polls but that doesn't indicate a clique, it indicates that people are alike in what they find annoying.

As usual, SP, you find a way to sum it up in a diplomatic manner. I don't find mem's polls to be annoying because if I'm not interested and I don't have something nice to say, I don't post. There are those who do like mem's threads, but I wouldn't call them a clique, so I wouldn't call those who are annoyed a clique. That being said, however.....

I don't know if I would use the word clique, but there are some who have gotten in the habit of jumping on Mem, and others follow the lead. They would certainly appear as a clique to the person being so treated. I am not as quick at noticing behaviour patterns as some.

....I do agree with kalipygian. I wouldn't say it's a clique, but there those who seem to post not for the purpose of having something constructive to say, but to get a reaction and support from those they seem to consider "cool". It reminds me of high school, with a group of teenagers standing around pushing the others into a fight, afraid to disagree with their "friend" and have a different opinion, and rather than backing up their arguement with some sort of belief system, they resort to "welll, so and so says I'm right, so there!".

Mem, you complain that others are insulting you, don't like you, etc.. Yet you consistently fall into childish behavior. Name calling, insults, I don't want to play with you, then you act shocked when people retaliate in the same fashion. If you can't take it, don't dish it out. If you have a point, make it and ignore the name calling and triggers. You do NOT have to respond in a like manner. If you don't want to be treated like a child, then don't act like one.

You know where I satdn mem. Like I told you, if no one asks the hard, embarrasing, or taboo questions, we learn nothing and do not incite constructive discussion.

Like yngjock said. You are doing the work of a higher power. Keep asking young philosopher and one day your quest may be fulfilled, but the day you run out of questions and things to learn will be the day you go home to your creator.

While I don't agree that what mem is doing is the work of a higher power, I do believe that one should always be curious about life and those around them, as long as it is done in a respectful way. Asking hard questions is fine, as long as you are prepared for the responses. If you are going to put yourself out there, you are going to get some negative reactions.

Osiris put it well when he states "incite constructive discussion". The ability to debate in a respectful way, to accept that someone else's opinion differs from you in a mature manner is part of being "constructive". It's part of the definition of emotional intelligence. It's not easy, but you can't grow if you don't open yourself up to some degree when it comes to the thoughts and beliefs of others.

Some people ALWAYS have to have drama. On LPSG they do this by going from thread to thread, and their every other post is a rude comment of some sort. There are some who need to put others down to make themselves feel in some way superior.

Your time on LPSG is always going to be full of angst if you don't set some boundaries for yourself. I have my own. Two of my top ones are:

1. I do not retaliate with name calling, etc. When someone does this to me, my instinctive reaction is to automatically negate their arguement. If they cannot debate in a mature way, then more than likely they did not arrive at their belief in a mature way, therefore I am wasting my time. I don't want to instill this reaction in someone else.

2. You can disagree and still be respectful. Even if I think someone is a total b**** or jack***, they are entitled to their opinion. Once they cross the line themselves, I move on. I have little patience for childish behavior.
 

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Can I join the clique? I have Chinese take-out if you guys want it. There's still some fried rice and an eggroll left! :biggrin1:
 

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To clarify. I guess what I mean by a higher power, he's been given the bravery to ask, the mind to think about what to ask, and the ability to take it all in, and process it and go forward a much wiser person for the effort.

As always, wldhoney is right. When discussion is started, everyone brings a different view to the table. You look at any opinion post out here and you would be hard pressed to find everyone responding in the like manner. Just because we disagree, doesn't make us enemies. friends never agree 100% on everything. You pick your battles and 99% of the time, you agree to disagree and you respect each other for the consideration. That is why I may look at a poll by mem and say "WTF is he thinking, but I'm never going to down him for asking. In fact if anything, I'm going to put mydelf in his shoes and try to understand why he is asking. So far, I haven't been offended.

So watch your step mem or I'll poke you with my eye pokin' stick. :twak: :lmao:
 

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To clarify. I guess what I mean by a higher power, he's been given the bravery to ask, the mind to think about what to ask, and the ability to take it all in, and process it and go forward a much wiser person for the effort.

That makes sense. :smile: Bravery to ask is an area of weakness for me. I have a lot of questions, but not the courage to put them out there, so I respect it. Mem has almost a child-like demeanor in the need to ask "why?".

I do believe that mem reacts emotionally and not necissarily with wisdom as of yet. Sometimes one should be the bigger person. Take the high road. Yes, the one you are taking the high road with probably will not even realize it. More than likely they will pat themselves on the back and think "I won" and run off to tell their friends. It's okay to accept that some people are like this and to simply walk away rather than taking yourself down to their level. Mem digs himself into a hole when he responds illogically.

...When discussion is started, everyone brings a different view to the table. You look at any opinion post out here and you would be hard pressed to find everyone responding in the like manner. Just because we disagree, doesn't make us enemies. friends never agree 100% on everything. You pick your battles and 99% of the time, you agree to disagree and you respect each other for the consideration. That is why I may look at a poll by mem and say "WTF is he thinking, but I'm never going to down him for asking. In fact if anything, I'm going to put mydelf in his shoes and try to understand why he is asking. So far, I haven't been offended.

Very nicely stated, Osiris, from a very kind person. :smile:

So watch your step mem or I'll poke you with my eye pokin' stick. :twak: :lmao:

Not fair! Where the hell is MY pokin' stick! :mad: