Odd (but Good) Support Group

[Pecker]

I was with LPSG for a long time as a lurker under various usernames until I joined and began posting as bilbobagginsx two board versions ago.

Unless the board gets sidetracked, those of us who qualify in one way or another as 'large' learn and share a great deal with oneanother.

How many of us could say to others what we are able to write here? How many of us knew there were so many 'brothers' in the world until we came here?

If you cannot fathom the need for this group, you don't need it. Plain and simple.

On the other hand there are plenty of other groups which might fit your needs - if that is, indeed, what you are looking for. If not, you might consider starting your own IFSFMBIDHABPSG*. It might add inches to your...ego.

Pecker

* I Feel Sorry For Myself Because I Don't Have A Big Penis Support Group

 

[13788]

fournineteen59: Obviously the site meets a need and that's great. But why can't men seem to think that they can't talk to friends about some of these issues? Might be time to find some new friends. I do have male friends that are not only capable, but very supportive. It just seem that the discussions center more about the desire to be recognized for your size more than the troublesome aspects of your endowment. I'm not criticizing that, I'm just trying to understand which is more important to you.

I'm actually pretty average (6 in.) and I have to admit that some of your conversations make me feel pretty good about being average and less "wanting" more.

But it's too bad that most guys feel that they can't talk about these issues. Maybe we can.

It just was an obvious question that I just didn't see addressed on your site.

 

[MisterMark]

I've been through this before with other groups of mine. It really wouldn't matter how much it's all explained to you, you're always going to come back with "But can't you talk to friends?" and "But I'm just trying to understand..." It gets old, buddy.

So, if you're here to join in, you're very welcome to do so. But if you're here to harrass the members, I'd suggest you move on.

Thanks.

 

[Max]

[quote author=fournineteen59 link=board=meetgreet;num=1054879981;start=20#21 date=06/07/03 at 19:37:55]But why can't men seem to think that they can't talk to friends about some of these issues? ....

But it's too bad that most guys feel that they can't talk about these issues. Maybe we can. [/quote]

I think most of us have one or two friends with whom we can talk about anything. This certainly applies to me. But beyond the very closest friends who know everythng that is good and bad about us, there are probably at least a couple of reasons we might avoid talking about size-related issues:

1. It might seem uncomfortably like bragging.
2. There is a lot of value in picking up ideas and info from other guys who have the same issues/challenges/potential as you. Simple as that.

 

[13788]

fournineteen59: Dear Admin,

I'm sorry if some of my comments or questions came across as "harassment." That wasn't intended, but I guess I also understand that comments on boards have no emotion, voice tone, etc....and may come across more sarcastic than intended. Again, I'm sorry.

My original question was a serious one looking for insight. I just have several friends who have struggled with their identity because of a percieved small penis and were surprised that this group would need support and were curious as to what kind of support they were seeking. The responses and the other threads help help give insight to those questions.

My latest question again was more intended as a serious attempt at asking why well endowed guys can't talk about things with others - I think it would be a slightly better world if they could/would. Not all of us lesser endowd fellows would feel threatened, we might find common ground that would help all of us.

Again, my sincere apologies for any comments that I made that obviosly came across less than respectful.

 

[MisterMark]

It's alright, fournineteen59. I almost deleted my own response there. I know that the members here look after each other, and they'll let you know if your comments are not appreciated. I probably didn't need to come across as the "bully moderator." lol...

Enjoy the discussion.

 

[B_DoubleMeatWhopper]

[quote author=fournineteen59 link=board=meetgreet;num=1054879981;start=20#21 date=06/07/03 at 19:37:55]But why can't men seem to think that they can't talk to friends about some of these issues? [/quote]

Unless someone has a particularly well-hung coterie of friends, discussing size issues with wouldn't prove to be very helpful. They've never had to deal with our specific situations, so they couldn't relate. They'd be ill-equipped (okay ... bad choice of wording) to offer practical suggestions or even empathy. Also, the relative anonymity offered by a board such as this makes it easier for some dudes to discuss subjects that would make them uncomfortable to give voice to offline. LPSG does fill a need for many.

 

[13788]

SpeedoGuy: Exactly. Well said.

SG

 

[13788]

Donk: [quote author=fournineteen59 link=board=meetgreet;num=1054879981;start=20#21 date=06/07/03 at 19:37:55] But why can't men seem to think that they can't talk to friends about some of these issues? Might be time to find some new friends.[/quote]

Between them, Max and DMW sum up my sentiments on this question pretty well. I would add that if the suggestion is to replace current friends with a group of friends with whom I could talk freely about my penis, with all due respect, the suggestion borders on silliness. I generally don't choose friends based on whether they would make good penile conversationalists. My offline friends and I find plenty to talk about other than our penises. If the suggestion is to make additional friends who will discuss these issues, then you have answered your own question about one of the functions of this board.

 

[13788]

Slingshot: Donk said: "Take it from me, when you grow an 11" penis as a teenager, it attracts your attention and raises many thoughts that you can't usually share with others without coming across as a braggart or an obsessive weirdo."
and
"...if the suggestion is to replace current friends with a group of friends with whom I could talk freely about my penis, with all due respect, the suggestion borders on silliness. I generally don't choose friends based on whether they would make good penile conversationalists."

Deadly accurate, and delightfully ironic. Donk sums up my exact feelings here. The issues and downsides of having a large penis are not easy to discuss with other men who don't experience it themselves.

1. You do get teased. Really, truly, you do, especially as a kid. Some guys are jealous, or openly hostile, though the bulk just admire it.
2. People seem to feel free to tease you mercilessly, non-stop, and loudly about it, because they think they're giving you free publicity.
2. You feel exposed, you have to be careful what you wear, and god help you if you get an erection in public.
4. Some guys assume there can be no possible disadvantage, and hence, that if you're talking about it, it's purely self-aggrandizement.
5. Some of those guys clearly are not interested in listening to the problems, they just want to hear what it's like so they can fantasize.

Imagine having an (admittedly, relatively trivial) issue that you could NEVER BRING UP with 99% of people because they'd think you were, in Donk's words, a braggart, or an obsessive weirdo. Being able to discuss it here is cathartic, and hence protects all my offline friends!

Talking about it with girls is quite different, they tend to be more sympathetic, but initiating such a conversation... it takes a fair bit of bravery.

Don't take the vehemence of my response to mean that I'm defensive about the need for LPSG; it's more that I'm enthusiastic about the fact that for some of us, it really is supportive.

 

[13788]

fournineteen59: Thank you for your thoughts. I will share your experience with some of my friends who have suffered because of being on the short end of the stick (or at least because they THINK they are on the short end of the stick) and I think it will add perspective. Somehow we males have to be more tolerant and less jealous of one another regardless of our situation. At least women talk about things like being overweight, having small breasts, too big of breasts, bad hair, etc... Men seem to be unable to share such vulnerabilities regardless of their situation.

The psychiatrists who always downplay men and their insecurities about penis size always say things like "most women don't care....blah, blah, blah" when I think the real angst is deriven from how males treat males.

I applaud this web site and encourage all of the conversation and sharing.

I'm sounding like Phil Donahue.