Odd Experience While Changing in the Locker Room and Heading to the Showers

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not that odd of an experience really. Probably three fourths of men in shower rooms are bi and gay. He was probably just horny and felt confident that you were bi or gay, and that he might score with you.

His offer to help you was an offer for a blowjob or something else, even if it was a hookup outside of the locker room. Try not to be offended, he was probably just looking for a cock to suck or to get sucked.

If the thought continues to offend you, maybe you shouldn't go back to the showers. Like I said, a large percentage of the guys you'll see in there are bi or gay and looking for something, even if they don't approach you.

The first shower room experience I had was at a public beach where men, I assume, come in to rinse the salt water off their bodies. There were guys in there turned all the way around facing everyone while shampooing their pubes.. Facing everyone while shampooing pubes was a reason to stall and get the attention of other interested guys.

Try not to be surprised what happens to you in a shower room.
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Something kind of similar happened to me a few years ago (not the same tho). There was a guy who is a regular at the same gym as me. A lot of the guys who worked out on the same days/times each week used to chat a little bit in the locker room - about the weather and stuff. He was pretty socialable with quite a few of the guys and so was I. He was not in the least bit attractive to me and I never really thought about whether he was gay/straight etc (I guess I assumed straight).

After a couple of months, if I happened to be in the locker room alone with him he would ask questions I was a litle uncomfortable with: "Where do you live", "What are you doing later this evening" etc.... I would change the subject and from then on tried not to be in the locker room at the same time as him. However, sometimes it was unavoidable.

One day I had just finished my shower and was getting dressed when he came in from the gym. He got in the (open) shower. I didn't pay him much attention and finished getting dressed as quickly as I could. When I was ready to leave I had not choice but to walk past the showers to reach the exit. This means I had no choice but to look in his direction very briefly. What I saw was that he wad standing there with a full hardon. Like I said before, I was not attracted to him at all and this made me really uncomfortable. I looked away immediately and continued towards the exit.

He then shouts out to me "Excuse me!". I thought to myself "OK, if you talk to him now maybe I get a chance to tell him I'm not interested and that will put a stop to all this". So I paused and said "Yes". However, to my surprise he then said "I can't help noticing the fact that you are always looking at me and I want to say it makes me very uncomfortable". I was really shocked because this was not what I expected him to say. I had not been looking at him, I was not the one who kept asking personal questions, in fact I had been trying to avoid him. What's more, I was not the one standing there naked with a raging hard-on! The only thing I could think of to say was "I am sorry". I meant to say it in a really sarcastic manner, but I think it actually came out sounding quite sincere, which was not what I intended at all. It probably sounded like I was actually apologising for something I hadn't done.

Anyway, after that I never spoke to the guy again, although I still bump into him (not literally) from time to time.
I think this qualifies as sexual harassment.
 

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I think this qualifies as sexual harassment.

I felt harassed. At the time I was surprised how upset I was by something which involved no physical contact. However, there were no witnesses and he was accusing me of coming on to him (which I absolutely was not). In a situation like this there isn't really anything you can do, I'm over it now and he seems to ignore me as much as I ignore him :smile:
 

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This is one of the reasons why I work out at home with basic equipment. I get a better workout,don't have to commute,save money and I don't have to deal with weird people and bacteria and sweat infested gym equipment and lockerrooms. :)
 

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maybe he was trying to stir the "jealousy" pot.

never had anything happen like that to me. at the Y yrs ago, I had a complete stranger tell me I was really hung, and walked half across the locker room to tell me that and was staring at my cock. I was about 20. I told him " the ladies like it, and I'm not queer". he frowned, and went back to his locker. the term "gay" was not in use back then.
 

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maybe he was trying to stir the "jealousy" pot.

never had anything happen like that to me. at the Y yrs ago, I had a complete stranger tell me I was really hung, and walked half across the locker room to tell me that and was staring at my cock. I was about 20. I told him " the ladies like it, and I'm not queer". he frowned, and went back to his locker. the term "gay" was not in use back then.
Okay, at that point I would have thought rape was imminent.
 

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I've never had this happen before, but I'm not surprised. Youth today are so narcissistic that they assume that they are always the centre of attention, and that everything is about them. This is one thing I really enjoy about my Y. Guys that use the premium locker room like me are comfortable with nudity. Guys that aren't, use the basic locker room because it is a lot cheaper in monthly membership fees.

The younger ones may be nicer to look at, but are such paranoid pussies that I would rather be naked with the older guys who are comfortable with themselves even though they are not as nice to look at.

I totally agree with that, except for the whole "today" part- honestly I think that these people have always been around and always will be- I will call them douchebags. There's something about being attractive and 22 that makes some dudes think that EVERYTHING is about them and this is their curse. Then, they graduate from college and try to get a job and realize that nobody really gives two shits about their abs, or how many jagerbombs they can do without passing out, and by the time they're 30 and have two kids and a 9 to 5 job, all of their cocky douche-ness has been smashed out of them by the just-barely-tolerable-boring-ness of their pointless lives. :biggrin1: Or hopefully, at least.
 

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You mention that you had noticed from previous times in the showers that the guy was bigger than most! The guy in my opinion has probably detected your noticing him previously and said nothing. Now, he mistakenly thinks you are watching him again and decides to stop you in your tracks! I think it is a case of : I could have been guilty of admiring that guy's big semi, but I was not that hurts. I don't think you did anything really wrong..we all watch what other guys do at the gym. But if the guy is gonna yell at you for noticing him, he picked the wrong time! He perhaps was more embarrassed than you by his comment!
Would not surprise me if you two became friendly with one another after this incident!
 
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You mention that you had noticed from previous times in the showers that the guy was bigger than most! The guy in my opinion has probably detected your noticing him previously and said nothing. Now, he mistakenly thinks you are watching him again and decides to stop you in your tracks! I think it is a case of : I could have been guilty of admiring that guy's big semi, but I was not that hurts. I don't think you did anything really wrong..we all watch what other guys do at the gym. But if the guy is gonna yell at you for noticing him, he picked the wrong time! He perhaps was more embarrassed than you by his comment!
Would not surprise me if you two became friendly with one another after this incident!

Yeah, I just "noticed" him in the shower before in the sense of I knew it was him and he just looked regular in the size department at quick glance (which I wasn't even checking, you tend not to notice normal). I'm pretty peripheral with my vision. Plus he's got some pretty recognizable back tattoos.

This time he was standing there with about a 5-6 inch semi (who knows maybe he was hard) sticking completely horizontally away from his body so even out of the corner of my it was pretty easy to notice.

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Not to be boastful, but as early in the morning as I go to the gym there aren't too many fit bodies there so I get people coming up to me personally all the time. Sometimes they are completely naked and want to carry on a conversation like normal, sometimes in the shower, etc. I've had people come up to me naked, stick one leg up on the bench next to me, and start to carry on a conversation about when I lift, what do I eat, what exercises, etc. etc. as if that's really no big deal. It's honestly not to me.

Plus, if I really wanted to look at someone's cock, I would. I'm not going to stare at it like a big creeper or something. But I'm also not going to say I wasn't trying to look if I was really was... type of thing. :wink:
 
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Yeah, I just "noticed" him in the shower before in the sense of I knew it was him and he just looked regular in the size department at quick glance (which I wasn't even checking, you tend not to notice normal). I'm pretty peripheral with my vision. Plus he's got some pretty recognizable back tattoos.

This time he was standing there with about a 5-6 inch semi (who knows maybe he was hard) sticking completely horizontally away from his body so even out of the corner of my it was pretty easy to notice.

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Not to be boastful, but as early in the morning as I go to the gym there aren't too many fit bodies there so I get people coming up to me personally all the time. Sometimes they are completely naked and want to carry on a conversation like normal, sometimes in the shower, etc. I've had people come up to me naked, stick one leg up on the bench next to me, and start to carry on a conversation about when I lift, what do I eat, what exercises, etc. etc. as if that's really no big deal. It's honestly not to me.

Plus, if I really wanted to look at someone's cock, I would. I'm not going to stare at it like a big creeper or something. But I'm also not going to say I wasn't trying to look if I was really was... type of thing. :wink:

I think you are the well adjusted kind of guy who can overlook this guy's mistake and rudeness! Whatever was bugging him, maybe he got it out of his system. It is to your credit that you did not get nasty at the time of his offensive remark.

I still bet you can make a friend out of him just by being nice and courteous again when you see him next time!:smile:
 
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Something kind of similar happened to me a few years ago (not the same tho). There was a guy who is a regular at the same gym as me. A lot of the guys who worked out on the same days/times each week used to chat a little bit in the locker room - about the weather and stuff. He was pretty socialable with quite a few of the guys and so was I. He was not in the least bit attractive to me and I never really thought about whether he was gay/straight etc (I guess I assumed straight).

After a couple of months, if I happened to be in the locker room alone with him he would ask questions I was a litle uncomfortable with: "Where do you live", "What are you doing later this evening" etc.... I would change the subject and from then on tried not to be in the locker room at the same time as him. However, sometimes it was unavoidable.

One day I had just finished my shower and was getting dressed when he came in from the gym. He got in the (open) shower. I didn't pay him much attention and finished getting dressed as quickly as I could. When I was ready to leave I had not choice but to walk past the showers to reach the exit. This means I had no choice but to look in his direction very briefly. What I saw was that he wad standing there with a full hardon. Like I said before, I was not attracted to him at all and this made me really uncomfortable. I looked away immediately and continued towards the exit.

He then shouts out to me "Excuse me!". I thought to myself "OK, if you talk to him now maybe I get a chance to tell him I'm not interested and that will put a stop to all this". So I paused and said "Yes". However, to my surprise he then said "I can't help noticing the fact that you are always looking at me and I want to say it makes me very uncomfortable". I was really shocked because this was not what I expected him to say. I had not been looking at him, I was not the one who kept asking personal questions, in fact I had been trying to avoid him. What's more, I was not the one standing there naked with a raging hard-on! The only thing I could think of to say was "I am sorry". I meant to say it in a really sarcastic manner, but I think it actually came out sounding quite sincere, which was not what I intended at all. It probably sounded like I was actually apologising for something I hadn't done.

Anyway, after that I never spoke to the guy again, although I still bump into him (not literally) from time to time.


You should have said "Don't flatter yourself, asshole!". Grrr! Don't you hate when you think of all the great come-backs after the fact!?
 

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Personally, I totally get embarrassed when I get a chubby/semi in a locker room. It's always pretty easy to notice and usually comes out of being nervous and horny. Obviously I don't have any tattoo's lol and would be much more respectful to others in the locker room and not take a defensive stance. I actually normally cover up and try to get clothed asap. However if I'm in a situation where I'm comfortable with the guys around me and know they aren't interested I usually don't get aroused. With the younger generations not being de-sensitized generally with being naked, I feel this may be where the "problem" arises socially. Hopefully with the help of message boards like this locker room erectile dysfunction will be a thing of the past. As for JO in a public locker room you're asking for HPV, not that it's uncommon but a public/shared bathroom is no place for sex. Period. With that said, I do thoroughly enjoy when I feel my cock waggling about and the other guys sort of clam up lol. So to you older guys please play nice and to us younger guys don't think that your youth over shadows brazen arrogance. Does this sound about right? I hope so.
 

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He then shouts out to me "Excuse me!". I thought to myself "OK, if you talk to him now maybe I get a chance to tell him I'm not interested and that will put a stop to all this". So I paused and said "Yes". However, to my surprise he then said "I can't help noticing the fact that you are always looking at me and I want to say it makes me very uncomfortable". I was really shocked because this was not what I expected him to say. I had not been looking at him, I was not the one who kept asking personal questions, in fact I had been trying to avoid him. What's more, I was not the one standing there naked with a raging hard-on! The only thing I could think of to say was "I am sorry". I meant to say it in a really sarcastic manner, but I think it actually came out sounding quite sincere, which was not what I intended at all. It probably sounded like I was actually apologising for something I hadn't done.

Anyway, after that I never spoke to the guy again, although I still bump into him (not literally) from time to time.

The only sense I can make out of this is that the guy was begging for your attention..and you did not give it to him; so out spewed his hateful anger!
 
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You were standing there naked doing nothing and in his opinion leering in his direction. I would have said I am waiting for CG and walked toward the scales. That would have definitely been better than the truth that you were waiting for your friend so that you could take a shower together!! LOL!
 
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I totally agree with that, except for the whole "today" part- honestly I think that these people have always been around and always will be- I will call them douchebags. There's something about being attractive and 22 that makes some dudes think that EVERYTHING is about them and this is their curse. Then, they graduate from college and try to get a job and realize that nobody really gives two shits about their abs, or how many jagerbombs they can do without passing out, and by the time they're 30 and have two kids and a 9 to 5 job, all of their cocky douche-ness has been smashed out of them by the just-barely-tolerable-boring-ness of their pointless lives. :biggrin1: Or hopefully, at least.

While narcissism has always existed, I do believe that it is far more prevelant today than it was when I was younger (I'm in my mid 40s). I remember reading a story about this in (if I remember correctly) Newsweek. They were trying to find out why it is more of a problem today than in the past. They claimed that over protective parents who put their kids on a pedestal, the "everyone is a winner" attitude that exists in schools, the fact that only child families are more common, reality TV which celebrates mediocrity, and the rise of social networking such as facebook and twitter have given the younger generation the idea that they are special when in fact they are just like everyone else. I also remember hearing an interview on TV that was done with a couple of psychologists who had just written a book about the prevelance of narcissism and youth today. At my old university, this has become a major topic of research in the psychology department.

I agree with you that these people will eventually become older and have to surrender the realities of mediocre life in order to survive. Their abs disappear along with their hair and looks, and no one gives a shit anymore about how much of a stud they were when they were younger, or how much they could bench press or drink. If anything, it becomes frowned upon to talk about such things. Guys that do this look pathetic trying to cling on to thier "glory days".