Offered Sex With Brother's Wife

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My older brother was injured in a car crash 13 years ago and is confined to a wheelchair. He has some feeling in his legs but can not use them. As for sex, he is able to perform but not well, not consistently/on-demand and apparently has been losing function in this area for some time.

Last night I spoke to him (arrangements for travelling to a wedding) and he dropped bombshells that A) for the past 4/5 years he's been allowing other men to pleasure his wife for him and B) would I be interested?!

Apparently it took him and his wife a whole to get their heads round the situation but now she regularly (like once a month) has sex with other men - mutual friends and internet hook-ups. My brother sometimes watches or joins in as much as he can but not always.

His wife brought up the question of whether I'd be interested in being one of her lovers and so he asked me.

I have to say that every sensible bone in my body is screaming "no!" but something about the idea of having sex with my brothers wife that he knows about keeps turning me on. He wouldn't be involved, or even watching, but he'd know what we were doing and when.

I'm genuinely considering it. Everyone seems to be being very level-headed about it.

But I'm confused. Any advice? Advice from men in my brother's position would be really welcome.
Don't do this man!. You will regret this the rest of your life.
 

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Hi Guys, Excuse the long post but I thought I should update you...

Last night at a mutual friend's wedding which involved a hotel stay-over, my brother, his wife and I had a good talk about a lot of things including the possibility of sex.

Essentially, we decided that it's a "not now" rather than a no.

The sleeping-with men thing turns out not to be an issue - they brought it up before me and they've known for quite some years (after a mutual friend who'd been to Amsterdam with me let slip one night that I'd been to certain venues...). Not only is this not an issue but they were really warm an accepting of the whole thing and are OK with me being bi.

The reasons my sister-in-law thought that I'd be a good person to turn to in this is that I'm quite mature, sexually and could seperate us having physical sex together from the rest of our relationship - especially because this is my brother. The other factors were that it seemed "natural" for me to step in and help my brother and also that she appreciates larger guys and had heard from an (female) ex who still lives near them that I'm a big boy who knows what to do with it (apparently my brother is a good size too and their mates that she's been sleeping with have generally not measured up though have been fun).

We also talked about how much my brother would be involved. I've always found brother scenario porn really hot but when confronted with this sort of situation in real life it's kinda freaky. Ultimately we agreed that he'd be in the room and could leave when he wanted or could join in if we all agreed.

We all kind of ended up in a good place about it, and it was kind of in the air that being as we were in a hotel, maybe we should take advantage of the situation... but we decided that we should sit on it for a while and see how we all feel in a few months time. Christmas was suggested as we'll all be together then.

So as I said "not now" but possibly in the future.
 

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Well it's happened.

As I'm working over Christmas I've been visiting family this week and last night I had sex with my brother's wife while he watched and ultimately kind of "directed" the action.

It was good sex, very energetic and ultimately very satisfying for me and my sister-in-law and my brothers is happy too.

It may happen again over the weekend.

All the discussion that went in to this beforehand means we all knew what we were getting in to.
 

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well, now that it's happened- if you're comfortable, indulge us with telling us more about what you experienced--- did it feel "respectful" and dutiful, or did it feel "hot" and quazi-kinky?
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It sounds very loving to me. You all went into it with a lot of forethought and advice. If you handle the situation with care and tact, it should be a good situation for all three. Your proclivity for men might mean that your brother could benefit directly as well. We have all been bound by the constraints of religion and society, which sometimes help keep us from being too animalistic, but you three sound as if you know what you are getting into. Best of luck.
 

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honestly , I don't know if it could happen with me sleeping with my sisters husband , but ive slept with my husbands past best friend and my husband directed the whole thing. It was amazing! If nothing about it gets weird then have a good time!
 

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There was nothing "kinky" to it - we'd agreed the boundaries beforehand.

Basically it was pretty "standard" sex in a variety of usual positions - missionary, doggy, her on top (how I came). There was no kissing and no foreplay - I didn't need it and my brother "warmed her up" before they came in to the spare room.

All in all, lasted about 20 minutes.
 

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If your relationship with your bro is very strong and theres no risk of an emotional bond because it's not gonna be too regular with his wife then maybe it won't seem weird. But if a low develops in their relationship in the future as they do at some point. U don't wanna get caught up in that due to the arrangement. At the end of the day protecting yr relationship with family is key even if initially it has been done out of love/duty.
 

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Unlike some of the other people it sounds very safe and mature. Glad it worked out for all three of you. I hope she appreciated your appendage
 

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You probably will be doing your brother a favor by having sex with his wife. He can't do it and obviously wants her to stay so it is something you should consider. You have to let them know about your lifestyle first, no secrets in this situation. If I was him, I would rather my brother having sex with my wife then a stranger. Just as long as you don't try to take her from him because he really needs her in his life, good luck
 

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I would rather my brother not fuck my partner, but maybe that is just me. I'm very sex positive, but I expect to hang with my family for gatherings at Christmas etc. You have obviously figured out whether you can continue a healthy sexual relationship with your sister in law, with or without your brother, or whether you want to damage your relationship with your brother, or you just don't care.

Your bro already has his legs cut off, and a woman who is sticking with him. Here is the way I see it: (a) You steal his wife. (b) You fuck with family dynamics. (c) You decide to fuck her for a while and then have to deal with her at family functions. (d) You fuck her and destroy the relationship with your brother. (e) you decide on alternate nights with your bro on when you fuck her, and share her for the rest of your life.

It's done now, so there is no going back (and if it is a trolll ..... rrrrrr). I really think I would spend a lot of money on making my wheelchair bound bro happy rather than fucking my sister in law.

I'm prepared to concede that you may be doing the right thing. I don't buy it though, and I would prefer to rent prostitutes for my bro than doing what you are doing.

But maybe, I'm just a bitch.