Office Attire vs. Play Attire

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giozam76: Hey guys. I'm new to this forum. I'm really happy I found it, because like most of you, I too have issues with being big-dicked - some good, some bad.

I find it difficult to find dress pants that don't make my package so noticable. I have no prob with showing a bulge, which is pretty much a given regardless of what I wear. I just feel that the bulge is slightly inappropriate in a business setting. I find myself always getting stares from both women and men. I don't care about the stares, but I have been told by a couple of people that it is pretty obvious, and I often get the impression from these people that they find it obscene.

I was shopping once for dress slacks. When I came out of the dressing room, the guy who was helping me took a look at the slacks and said "Oh you definitely need a larger size. It's a bit snug in the crotch." I told him that the next size up would be too big, and wouldn't look right. His answer was "Well you can't walk around like that." I thanked him for his help and left.

Any advice guys? I don't mind the way I look in jeans, shorts, or sweatpants. BELIEVE ME - I like the attention. In the office though, I'm not sure. Am I being paranoid? Should I just forget it? I really haven't found one pair of dress slacks or khakis that don't show my cock and balls. Oh by the way, I'm about 6.5" x 6" soft, with big low-hangers. It's not like I can really hide my stuff. Any suggestions?

giozam76

 

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norseman: I think that pleated front slacks do the trick pretty well. They put a lot more fabric upfront, so that its not as clear whether its the drape of the fabric or the drape of your package that's pushing the fabric around. A size larger is not a bad idea. If they're then taken in at the waist band, you'll still have the extra fabric a little bit lower to accomodate your one-eyed monster. This also works for slim waist/big butt guys. You need a good tailor. Happy hunting.

 

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giozam76: Thanks for the info norseman. I think I may just have to start buying pleated fronts. Priding myself on being fashion-conscious, I like to look good. I prefer flat fronts because I like the way they look, but I may have to switch.

Being Latino, I have a full ass too, so that fills out my slacks as well. I think I may just need to get a tailor. I was hoping not to have to resort to that. Any other suggestions guys?

giozam76

 

[Pecker]

Yep, guys gifted with a full package and a bubble butt as well need pleated pants with full-cut thighs.

This may require a young fellow to forego the young men's dept. for the men's dept., where a 'mature' man's heavier butt and thighs are allowed for in the cut of the pants.

Don't give up. You'll find the perfect manufacturer. Try the large distributors like Men's Wearhouse.



Pecker

 

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giozam76: I'm 26 years old now. I've been shopping in the Men's Dept. for quite a while now. Is it me, or do they just make pants for guys with:

a. flat asses, and

b. small cocks and balls?

I mean, I have been noticing that men's clothing is just getting smaller and smaller and smaller. What is a big-dicked guy supposed to do? Same with underwear. I prefer to wear something with microfiber or spandex in it. Cotton stretches out too much, and then there's just no support. I used to wear boxers in high school, but once the schlong started to get out of control, I had to start wearing something with support. Now, I can't wear boxers underneath my dress pants. It's just way too obvious.

I just don;t find the men's section to be that much more forgiving.

 

[Max]

Giozam,

I am pretty well in the same category as you are.  After a few false starts, I finally tumbled to the conclusion that I had to put comfort first and appearance second.  So these days I make no attempt to flatten the bulge at all, and despite the fact that it shows more in looser trousers, that is what I wear.  

There is no point taking care to get underwear that supports the weight and gives me enough room (oversized boxers over custom made jocks in my case), and then flattening out the inevitable bulge by wearing trousers that just aren't roomy enough -- if I do that, it might look better, but it hurts.

I have a theory that the cut of clothes in the US tends to be less forgiving.  For instance, I have just two pairs of boxers bought while in the US a couple of years ago, and despite the fact that they are a size bigger than my waist would need, they are painfully constricting around the crotch, and I avoid wearing them.

I don't think a guy like you can avoid tailor's bills.  My good fortune is that I can usually have an off the peg suit altered pretty neatly.  Because I have a big chest size (48", I have been up to 50"), the trousers that go with them are way oversized in the waist for me, so the waist, and maybe the backside (though I am built like you in that dept.) can be taken in, while they leave all that extra room in the crotch well alone.  Cheaper than having made to measure every time.

Last comment .. I think it is more of a problem with lighter weight fabrics.  Heavy fabric conceals more, but summer gear, whether formal or leisure, tends to mould round the bulge and show the stretch.   But whatever you do, that bulge is going to be there.

 

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giozam76: Thanks guys. I've come to realize that I will always have a bulge. I just wished that someone catered to men in this arena. Why not make men's pants with a little more room down there for men who need it?

Like I said before, I don't care in jeans. You should have a bulge in jeans, as far as I'm concerned. I just feel that it is a bit inappropriate in the office to be that blatant, but if you can't help it, you just can't help it. C'est la vie!

 

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biggbenn8: What I really hate.... is 'low rise' pants...

Pants that are cut so you feel like your ass is straddling them, with NO ROOM for anything at all.

One salesmen fed me a line about there being 2 sizes/types- I have yet to find what he told me (a low rise and 'deep rise').

You would think with the population getting taller (and fatter) their might be more sizing- look at womens jeans for example.

I am lucky to work in a job where I can wear baggy pants.

 

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giozam76: I totally agree with you about the "low-rise" bullshit. There's a part of me that really likes them because I think they look pretty hot, but I just cannot wear them. Plus, I have a high waist to begin with, so my first instinct is to pull them up, which is just impossible with all of my stuff down there.

The point is that most (if not all) mens clothing is just not made for men who have a big cock and balls and/or a bubble butt. I happen to have all 3.

I have to admit though, I love the stares I get when I wear jeans, or when I'm working out in my shorts at the gym. It's quite satisfying.

 

[jonb]

It probably comes from the fact that they were stitched by women in sweatshops. Women in general don't have very large penises. LOL

 

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giozam76: HAHAHAHA! Tha is rich! Come to think of it, you're probably right!

 

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kyle: It's just sad that you're made to think a bulge in your pants is inappropriate in the business world.

I read a great article in Vanity Fair many years ago called The Neuter Male. Basically, it's about how the business world - specifically the white collar office environment - has helped turn men into sexless, shallow, emotionally void eunuchs. And I must say, I rarely see an exception.

Frankly, these types of men are of no interest to me in any way.

I understand if you're looking for a more comfortable crotch for your pants, but being looked upon as obscene because - God forbid - you appear to actually have sex organs ... need I say more?

 

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bigsoft: Well said, Kyle. I freeball in office attire every day. I wear loose fitting trousers, but still show a bulge. If it offends anyone, that is their problem not mine.

 

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giozam76: I guess you guys are right. I mean, I don't necessarily feel neutered, but I can't help it if my cock and balls show through my pants. I'm a well hung-guy for fuck's sake!

 

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wristthickxl: Just thought I'd put in my two cents here...I think most dress pants show a bulge..Jeans - if they are tight enough - will more or less squash you, which is uncomfortable but decent so to speak....I've caught myself in mirrors before wearing dress pants and been mortified by the bulge...Once a gay colleague, who knew I am well hung, asked if I had a half-erection...and I get a lot of looks if I wear dress pants..I'm turning 40 in January and feel dress pants, suits, etc are more appropriate for my age but given the bulge factor, I'm still wearing jeans more often than not...

 

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look9989: I wear fairly loose-fitting slacks at work, and while I don't really show a bulge, my cock is pretty visible hanging down inside my pants, even with underwear. This very attractive young women always gives me a long stare when I walk by her, but I can't tell from her expression whether she's attracted to what I'm exhibiting or merely curious. Perhaps both. I gave up trying to hide my stuff--it's too uncomfortable--but I hope it's not turning Julia off.

 

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look9989: I wear fairly loose-fitting slacks at work, and while I don't really show a bulge, my cock is pretty visible hanging down inside my pants, even with underwear. This very attractive young woman always gives me a long stare when I walk by her, but I can't tell from her expression whether she's attracted to what I'm exhibiting or merely curious. Perhaps both. I gave up trying to hide my stuff--it's too uncomfortable--but I hope it's not turning Julia off.

 

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pokjbv: I worked in a government office setting in Florida, we were execs with private offices and were highly professional. We were required to wear long sleeves with a tie and at least good slacks and dress shoes, Monday through Thursday, Friday was casual and jeans were allowed as long as they were clean and had no holes. Suits were appropriate and I mostly wore them. Some showed more than others, but I did not really care, I prefer to tend my comfort and let others tend theirs.

My 501's were another matter, they showed a huge bulge and while I loved the comfort, I found out that they were a hot topic with others in the office. This was clearly demonstarted to me when I was going downs a rat maze hall and overheard my boss saying he though it was a pair of gym socks in there. At least he did not say gym sock! This man passed me over for promotion three times in spite of my good work which was way more abundant than my coworkers. I felt he did this because I was gay, till I heard him comment about the bulge.

This was also driven home when a secretary was let go, her sin was a propensity to wear a spandex unitard and with a body like hers it made too many of the older workers uncomfortable. She could have been a porn star. I do not think it helped that she wore them in very bright colors.

There is discrimination in the workplace for us well hung guys, it is exponentially worse if you are gay. I no longer work there, and I vow to god I will never work in a place where I have to put up with that kind of crap again. I am who I am, I am comfortable in good clothes which I wear well. If someone has a problem with my dick they can go get therapy, but leave me out of it.

About sizes, I have to disagree clothes are getting smaller. I have a 28 inch waist at 44 years of age, and I am embarrassed to say I HAVE to shop in the boys department. In most men's departments the waistline now starts at 30 and pickins are slim at that width. I like a flat front too, and I prefer a close fit though not tight. Any slob can wear baggy cloths that look like they were stolen from somebody overweight. But, one problem aside from the lack of room in boys clothing is that the pockets are smaller.

As far as the crotch goes, you can get any seamstress or tailor to add a gusset into the crotch for a little extra room, cost should be about $15. Most good dry cleaning establishments have someone that can do this, or can reccomend someone. A gusset is a diamond shaped piece of cloth inserted where back/front/left/right meet in trousers. Such things are why clothing makers give you such long pants, so there is leftover matching material for alterations. There is no need to move to a larger waist than you need to accomodate your penis. Good professionals can take off the rack and work with it to fit you for far less than tailored clothes. And, larger sizes just do not look right, to look good and be comfortable invest a few dollars for a good seamstress, it is worth it.

 

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kyle: Excellent insights, pok.

And might I add that beauty and intellegence can also be points of discrimination. I have quickly advanced in companies which had a more attractive and educationally aggressive staff, and have been stuck in one place in companies with a more homely and less intellectually expansive complement.

And we thought we were out of high school forever when we graduated. C'est la vie. :

 

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hungwitz: Dress pants, dress shirts, suits etc are all a problem.  They make them for either the flat assed, small equipped dudes or for the guys that have larger waists then chests.  

Being a weightlifter, I have been always had problems with shirts and pants.  If the pants fit around the waist, then too much shows up front.  If the shirts fits around the chest and neck, it looks like I am swimming in a sea of material!  

The last time I had to buy a suit (size 50), they had to take in the waist (34") so that the back pockets almost met!  Talk about a complete redo of the suit!  

The only solution I have found is to go to a good tailor and get custom made shirts, pants and suits.  I know it is more expensive but when the crotch is made larger originally and not a retro-fit, the pants do not wear out as fast - more room for the extra equipment we carry with us means less stretching and strain on the material.  

I used to have buy new pants just because the strain made the pants wear out at the crotch seam....now I can have a pair of pants last until they go out of style or the complete suit and pants are showing wear (not just the eye catching center of attention).