Oh how I 'd like your help with this (yes it's about circ)...

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  1. surto

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    Hi to all. I am here to ask for your help and advice. I will try to briefly tell my story and I ask for some guidance.

    I was circumcised at 21 because of a tight frenulum that was bleeding, I am 31 now. I didn't know any better back then and everyone in the medical community I asked told me it was a routine operation… The surgeon (or should I say the butcher) who performed the operation performed a partial circumcision removing the frenulum and leaving a small stump of a thin horizontal line on the underside of the glans and very little of the outer skin. I am very well endowed in terms of length and girth but I have a small glans and when I do not have an erection (maybe as a saving grace…) the skin covers the glans almost completely leaving an opening to the urethra however. Still I think I do have some keratinization on the glans.

    I have never been able to climax with a condom, and only a few times within a woman's vagina (I am straight) without one. I am seeing a sex therapist who attributes my inability to climax at least in part to my being accustomed to my own masturbatory touch which as a learned behavior is much different to sex with a partner (but is not averse to the notion that circumcision has played a part) and has suggested a standard delayed ejaculation protocol to follow.

    I masturbate frequently and very seldom with a full erection. I find the horizontal line under the glans very sensitive and this is my trigger when I masturbate. With girls I find this area hard to stimulate, maybe almost impossible, and when I did climax in their vagina it has been almost always through friction in the corona, but since my glans isn't as large and my girth is this again is hard to stimulate, especially so when I have learned to climax in another way via masturbation. I have had a girlfriend for the past 6 months or so, but I have yet to climax inside her… this is so frustrating…

    To me I have two ways to go, either ask for another circumcision to tighten the skin and make it more sensitive, as well as changing the angle of the glans so that my trigger spot can hit the vaginal walls, or regrowing.

    I would very much like your experiences and help here, just relating to others similar experience will be great. Of course I am sure most if not all of you can relate to my frustration.
     
  2. Rikter8

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    Sounds like your nerve endings may have been severed or damaged during the circumscision, but I am not a doctor.

    I would see a urologist and get a second opinion - I wouldn't get a second circumcision if it is not needed. If you can retract your foreskin comfortably, you may have something else going on.

    can you take a photo of the area in question?
     
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    I agree with Rikter, also with the caveat that I'm not a doctor.

    Sounds like whoever did it did a bad job. I'm really sorry to hear that. But I fail to see the logic in going back for more surgery at this point; I don't see how cutting away more is going to improve sensation. Also, it sounds like your sexologist might be on to something. Men (especially, in my not-exactly-vast experience, circumcised men) sometimes develop really particular masturbation styles that usually involve some sort of kung-fu grip. Easing up on things and trying different styles may help train your body to understand how to come differently. Also, it doesn't involve scalpels.

    I'd also suggest trying other parts of your body that turn you on. We often rush straight to our genitals when we want sex (either solo, or with others), but it's our brains that make us horny and they're not limited to genital stimulation for that. This may be your body's way of telling you you need some more foreplay.

    There's this myth out there that men should be able to just stroke their dicks or shove em in a hole and have a great time. It works for some guys, absolutely; it doesn't work for a lot of us. Trust a gay guy on this: Every dick likes to be treated differently, no matter what porn would tell you. And there's much to be said for a light touch. I don't want to minimize the possibility that your surgeon fucked up and you've got some nerve damage, but one way or the other maybe your body needs a bit more to get your engine going before you start handling the clutch?

    Regardless, I wish you the best of luck figuring things out.
     
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    Guys many, many, many thanks for taking the time to help out, I ll get back to what you said in more length and post some pics too, you are helping me out a lot.
     
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