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[lafever]

My girlfriend thinks lpsg is as cool as i do. Were watching that series Rome on HBO as i`m writing this, i guess thats not strange, is it? Anywhay, everyone wanting to see my penis is giving me a big head and i dont mean swelling. I guess i`m starting to feel alot more comfortable though, i never thought the very thing thats caused me so much pain over the years could turn out to be a blessing. My first wife wanted me to do porn but i`m sure she just was thinking about the money. When i look back and look at the way i felt then it made me feel strange in a way thats hard to put into words. Let me try, i think it was the fast buck that discouraged me the most and also all that attention, it might not seem so but i`ve always been really shy. Is there anyone else who is shy or is it just me?

lafever

 

[Osiris]

Definitely shy, definitely still have issues, definitely not going to get paid to show it.

You are not alone.

 

[lafever]

Thank you, that really comforts me, if i do it its for fun. Nothing more or less, i`m so happy that i found this site, it`s really nice to now that theres others like me.

lafever

 

[pdxpony]

Definately NOT shy, definately have issues, and I never wanted sex to turn into "work". (I learned that last part very quickly in six months.)

 

[rich-9.8]

Exactly. Why would you want to make one of the things you enjoy most into work?

 

[lafever]

My goodness, my girlfriend went from being cool with this site to aggravating me to no end, she has a zillian guy friends on the internet and i`ve never said a word about it, now that i`m getting the same attention she can`t stand it, she`s driving me crazy, going on and on about whatever she can think of, i went from the apple in her life to i hate you. Why is it ok for her and not for me, isn`t that what they call a double standard. If i should suddenly disappear and go mia its because i`m without a computer and i`ll be trying to figure out where i`m gonna lay my head, hopefully she`s just going through some kind of growing phase, i`ve got nerves of still butt you now the saying, a man can only take so much before he takes evassive action. If the worst happens i`ll just get a laptop and go on with my life. I love this site and i love all those here, i feel like i`ve arrived and now that thats happened i`m not gonna let her take it away from me, she`s either with me or against me being happy.
And if thats the case i`m sure i`ll find love again(The song from The black crows, i think?)

lafever

 

[NCLA]

Well, what goes around comes around!

She was paying less attention to you when she was online, and now you are doing the same. Not that that is something bad or anything, she just has to understand that what she does to you that you can do to her.

and oh yea, I am one shy son of a bee-otch!

 

[lafever]

I`ve never seen someones behavior change so fast, and i`m origanally from new york so i know what a new york minute is, she`s got me beat by about 30 seconds, lol. Alls fair in love and war. It saddens me me though, really.

lafever

 

[Osiris]

I`ve never seen someones behavior change so fast, and i`m origanally from new york so i know what a new york minute is, she`s got me beat by about 30 seconds, lol. Alls fair in love and war. It saddens me me though, really.

lafever

Include her. My wife knows I'm out here on this site and she even knows I have flirted a bit. Difference is, she knows what I do and when. I have no secrets. Now if either of you is keeping secrets from the other, one of two things will happen:

A) The one keeping secrets will freak out and think you are about to keep from them what they have been keeping from you.

B) The one being honest will get unjustly badgered by this.

If you love this girl and she is worth it, talk about it. One of the things about this site is that the women of this site are flirty and very outspoken, but they have morals and limits. They too have boyfriends, husbands, etc. They have their lines they will not cross and will tell you if you try to cross their lines.

Maybe your girl needs to know that and maybe she will change her thought on this.

 

[lafever]

We`ve been together for 10 months so our love is still growing, it takes me several years to fall hopelessly in love as i did with my 2nd wife who passed away, we were together 4 years when we decided to tie the not. When i was young i jumped into marriage too fast without getting to know them first and we turned out to be total oppossits, i swore i would never let lust control me again. Thats why i waited the second time, i didn`t want to go through all that pain again, also it was good for both of us as we were able to really connect. Osiris, your words are scaringly truthfull, you`ve definatly given me something to look at. This wouldn`t be the first time a woman has worn a mask and misled me to thinking she`s something she`s not, she knows everything i do because i tell her all, i`m all hers, she`s been pushing me to make out with another woman, she says its because she wants to watch but now i`m concered, i hope it`s not so she can clear her concience, maybe this is the longest she`s been faithfull and she`s at her breaking point,and if i do it with someone else it will justify her behavior so she can continue with being who she`s trying to hide, i just don`t know. Right now it`s all a mystery. I`ve been faithfull to her the whole time we`ve been together, i fantasize about other woman but thats as far as it goes when i`m with someone, i had one other girlfriend who actually gave me to her girlfriend as a present for her birthday and that caused problems then because she feared her friend would try and steal me away, i`m not like that, i don`t hop from one bed to another. I was single for 18 months before we got together and i don`t date. I always just go on with my life, i feel complete on my own, it`s really nice when you can share that with another. I want her to be as much a part in my life as i try to be in hers, i have no secrets. So why won`t she just let me be happy? I trust her like i would want to be trusted. I guess the million dollar question is whats really going on with her?


lafever

 

[Osiris]

You are a lot more enlightened than a lot of us men were when we tied the knot that's for sure.

The only thing left is talk. Not knowing the woman in this and only really having your side to go on, I can just speculate what may be going through her mind. Maybe she's been hurt too. Maybe she is scared of committment. I waited 15 years for my wife as she had two failed marriages and three children. Why? She was scared of committment and I was the first to really ask her. We have been together for 4 years now and she will tell you the only way out of this marriage is in a coffin. My wife went through a spell where she felt I didn't find her beautiful. She posted some provocative nudes on a swingers site. This was Christmas two years ago this came out. I was outraged, hurt, furious, etc. Not because of what she had done, but because she kept it secret and didn't talk to me.

We worked it out through talking and listening. It takes time, but if this woman is worth it, you have to do it. I have faith you can.

If this helps you, my wife and I are twice as strong in our love and respect for each other after this whole incident.

We hope that whatever the path, it works out for the better for you.

 

[lafever]

Originaly posted by Osiris

We have been together for 4 years now and she will tell you the only way out of this marriage is in a coffin.

Thats funny, i hope. lol. Thanks for those encouraging words. I wonder if she`s starting her period, once a month she`s like a witch, that movie the exorcist has nothing on her. Iv`e told her that when we have a bigger home that i want a secret place in the house to hide from her, she said yea like she understood me completly, i hope she didn`t think i was joking. I meant every word.

lafever

 

[Fire Agate]

your wife sounds way cool man

 

[Osiris]

your wife sounds way cool man

I got HELLA lucky man. I have a great wife. She learns well. :wink:

 

[BigDuder]

My goodness, my girlfriend went from being cool with this site to aggravating me to no end, she has a zillian guy friends on the internet and i`ve never said a word about it, now that i`m getting the same attention she can`t stand it, she`s driving me crazy, going on and on about whatever she can think of, i went from the apple in her life to i hate you. Why is it ok for her and not for me, isn`t that what they call a double standard. If i should suddenly disappear and go mia its because i`m without a computer and i`ll be trying to figure out where i`m gonna lay my head, hopefully she`s just going through some kind of growing phase, i`ve got nerves of still butt you now the saying, a man can only take so much before he takes evassive action. If the worst happens i`ll just get a laptop and go on with my life. I love this site and i love all those here, i feel like i`ve arrived and now that thats happened i`m not gonna let her take it away from me, she`s either with me or against me being happy.
And if thats the case i`m sure i`ll find love again(The song from The black crows, i think?)

maybe both of you could spend more time with each other and less time online. you know, like normal couples.

 

[Osiris]

maybe both of you could spend more time with each other and less time online. you know, like normal couples.

And then you miss what's in front of your face. :smile:

Good point BigDuder. Limiting the web time and increasing the personal time will do wonders.

 

[pavement]

And then you miss what's in front of your face. :smile:

Good point BigDuder. Limiting the web time and increasing the personal time will do wonders.

Well that's hardly a guarantee. After all divorce existed before Internet.

There is the revolutionary idea of asking someone why they say or think the things they do.If any response appears unsatisfactory and repeated exhortations are likewise then re-evaluative analysis might be correlatedly attempted with other views that are attempted to be verdically qualified.

 

[lafever]

Yeaaaaa...Just had a heart to heart talk with her, things are much better, the atmosphere at our home has resumed to a calm peace and serenity again, turns out she`s starting her period, thats when doom and despair enters her mind and she sets her self to be all worked up to the worst of extremes. The x-games dont have nothing on her at these times, she`ll push her self to the outer limits with speculation, she loves to feel sorry for herself at these times and has little or no self-esteem in all areas of her life as well, plus she gets down right mean. As for spending time on the computer i`m usually at work or sleeping or making out and doing things outside the restrictions of a home. I work for myself and right now i`m taking a break from the stresses of life, i am my own boss so relaxing when i want to and playing on the computer comes with its perks, she`s having to work still, she cant just take off without losing her job wich she enjoyes. She`ll be leaving for work here in just a few.

lafever

 

[Osiris]

Glad it got back on track.

 

[lafever]

Thanks Osiris, i`m glad you were there for me, look forward to being there for you.

lafever