OK, so I hate Ask the Ladies a Question about Men-threads but...

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  1. D_Tim McGnaw

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    I know a lot of gay men, heck probably most, really enjoy nipple play, and are turned on by other guy's nipples.

    Plenty of straight guys, probably most, will say they get really turned on by women's nipples, and playing with them and such.

    On those occasions I have shagged "straight" guys or n00bish bi-curious guys two things have always really seemed to blow their minds about gay sex (beyond the obvious)- having their salad tossed, and nipple play.

    In solo scenes in gay porn where the performers identify as straight such as this one - xLive - The Adult Social Network. Free xXx Videos, Photos, DVDs, Live Cams & Dating! the guys often show special attention to their own nipples (the guy in the clip shows lots of it) and are clearly very turned on by playing with their nipples. But in straight porn one almost never sees women playing with the guy's nipples or indeed the guy playing with his own while he's at his business.

    Most straight women I know seem to view men's nipples with mild amusement, only very rarely as a turn on or something they enjoy playing with. Most straight women I've ever questioned on the matter seem nonplussed by man-nips.

    The classic women's question "What are men's nipples even for?" even when only asked in jest seems to be unanswered in many women's minds.


    Am I way off or do most women not really think all that much of the teats of men? Or is playing with a guy's nipples something that he'd probably have to indicate was something he actually enjoyed before you ladies would think to do it?

    Are men's nipples and/or playing with them something which turns women on?

    I know as a gay man I really enjoy nipple play both giving and receiving and have often been inordinately turned on by a particularly fair pair of them is this one of those things which gay men and straight women don't have in common? :tongue:
     
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    this is a GREAT question.

    i love men's nipples, and i have been sorely disappointed in the past when a male partner has expressed distaste for my fascination/delight in playing with them.
     
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    Gosh, I didn't know that men enjoy that. I've tried playing with TheBF's nips before, but he didn't like it a lot. He prefers if I massage his pectoral muscles, especially during a blowjob, you know, by reaching up and giving it a good squeeze and kneading it a bit? He says his nips have almost no sensation. Not that I did it for very long. Maybe I should try harder next time.
     
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    Aaaaaah I've encountered this before, see so rare is it for many straight men to have their nipples played with and so concerned are many of them with all the knob twiddling and lever pulling of getting ladies to cum :wink: that their own nipples loose sensation and they sort of forget they can be sensitive and the nerves in the area seem to forget what stimulation feels like too.


    I find concerted but at first extremely delicate (almost featherlike tickling) brings feeling back over time, and gradually the sensation seems to come back. Then you can move onto the less delicate approach, biting and pulling etc. But going in bearclawed to begin with seems to have little effect.

    There are some men, as there are some women too, who genuinely don't have much sensation in their nipples though, but fingers crossed the BF aint one of them. LOL

    I find this softly softly approach seems to work best when combined with the element of surprise, especially out of the blue in non-sexual situations... which is a laugh in itself. :tongue:

    Mind you you probably need to be an expert tickler who enjoys tickling people till they wet themselves like me :tongue: (and yes I know tickling is a form of torture, blah blah blah)
     
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    I don`t get it. Men like my moobs, they play with them....I think it`s boring. I can`t get turned on by it.
    Sometimes while having sex, men just put out their moobs, and I go-WTF??? Then I follow the flow.;) But I just don`t enjoy it much.
     
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    I love having my nipples played with and sucked!
     
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    I'm going to try it! I'll report back on my success or failure. :biggrin1:

    Okay, I have this image of a guy doing this now.
     
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    Ever the curious one, I've tried gentle nipple play on my partners and have gotten the same "I don't like that reaction." :dunno:

    I'm glad to know some men might find it pleasurable. I'm always going to test the waters, simply because that's just who I am. If I think he loves something I want to do it more. I've never skipped them, just been told they don't care for it.
     
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    I`m close, just not there, yet! :wink:
     
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    I've spent the last 10 years telling myself to avoid them at all costs, so I honestly after all that time couldn't tell you about my previous thoughts or experiences.

    My husband has some form of mental issue when it comes to his nipples. It ranges to anything from the wrong fabric brushing against them to accidentally touching one while wiggling in bed... Enough to send him into the foulest of moods. There's no doubt in my mind that if I for some very odd reason decided to touch one on purpose, he'd kill me for it! :eek:
     
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    after hearing what some of the other ladies have said, this thread has me pondering over the male lovers i've had: you know out of them all i am pretty sure i've only encountered 1 or 2 that actually liked nipple play. most are more guarded than fort knox about their nipples. "don't touch me there!" is a typical reaction.

    is it that common of a thing for a straight guy not to like some nipple action?
     
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    Mine are ticklish to the point where it would be a major distraction if a woman played with them - it's not sexual for me at all.
     
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    It is an interesting question. Certainly there are a few women who can't connect with their nipples. But many men seem divorced from theirs. I have a feeling it's a homophobic issue for men (eg. nipples are feminine, therefore I won't acknowledge I have them), but that doesn't explain why some women say they get nothing from their nipples.

    Personally, I have always enjoyed the sensations I get through my nipples, and when I discovered body piercing (in my mid teens) my nips were my first body parts to get ringed. But I have to say that I can be nipple shy if a lover moves to them to abruptly. In this respect I think they're not unlike my cock. I need to be sexually warmed up before either my cock or nipples get any direct stimulation. But when I'm ready I love it.

    I think a good analogy is feet. Lots of people seem sensually divorced from their feet. I find that so strange. I love my feet and an having them massaged is bliss. But I guess feet are unisex so there may be as many women as men affected by foot dysmorphia (or whatever we should call this dislike of feet).
     
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    Goodness this is very interesting! I've never met a gay guy that didn't like a little bit of tit play, maybe I've just encountered a weird statistical bubble.

    I wonder if Straight chaps either like Mule find it too ticklish to enjoy, or maybe associate it too strongly with something one does to a woman and feel uncomfortable with it because of that...


    Poor you Aconitum, you fella is awful conflicted sounding about his nips :( Do you think it's over sensitivity or is it a real complex?
     
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    Ah see I would be one of them that's sexually divorced from my feet and almost all other people's feet. Gives me the creeps just thinking about it...:redface:
     
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    Do you get how weird that seems to someone who likes feet?
     
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    According to him, they aren't all that sensitive though he has nothing he can really compare with obviously...

    It's a little like shouting boo at someone when they turn a corner or come into a room. Some people laugh, jump, maybe give out a little scream, where as others simply react by punching you in the face.

    He has no control over his reaction when someone touches his nipples, and aside from "I really hate the feeling" no explanation either.
     
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    In my early days of being sexually active, I experimented with the nipples of several partners (or tried to). Everyone I attempted nipple play with said they didn't like it and asked me not to go there. Eventually I gave up. I haven't even bothered trying in many years. And not one man has ever expressed a desire for me to touch their nipples.
     
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    I wouldn't fight you off subgirrl :cool:
     
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    In my experience, most men I have dated like it. I just don`t get why!?
     
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