So I don't understand the overload of information you get from females when I'm normally the extact opposite. I am sure there have got to be plenty of people who like their personal time.
I think you and I may be a rare breed that both covet independence and desires the same in our partners. In general, both men and women tend to become codepedent in relationships, with both genders exhibiting the behaviors you mentioned.
On the other hand, men generally communicate only one way - directly and generally verbally. What they say is what they mean, and you can generally take what a man says at face value.
Women tend to communicate both verbally and non-verbally. Dolfette is a good example - I remember her response to petite on that women's only thread about use of force during sex, with the expectation that her man be able to have physical dialogue without verbal discussion. But even beyond that, for a man, a conversation with a lot of smiling and eye contact and even some physical contact is generally an indication of sexual desire (unless with family). For a woman, the same conversation could indicate a number of different things, and you have to read the other non-verbals to determine her intentions:
-dilation of pupils
-flushness of face
-intonation (vs her baseline intonation, which may not be known to the guy)
-touching of her hair
-playing with hands
-smoothing the skirt/pants
-energy of hand motions
-direction of eyes when she breaks eye contact (down vs to the side vs the guy's body)
-sweatiness of her hands
and this is not even a conclusive list
Some girls are easier to read than others [WHEN IT COMES TO SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS]. I knew my girlfriend wanted to fuck me during our first date just from the expression of desire in her eyes. I had an ex-girlfriend, after asking to come up to my bedroom kept her distance and kept the conversation casual and "friend zone." She later asked me why I didn't make a move that night, she had wanted me so badly then. Turns out, her extreme fear of me rejecting her caused her to overplay her casualness to the point that her desire was unreadable.
The thing is, a girl can be fickle about her desire for a guy who is on the borderline of her standards. She can have a conversation with him thinking "if he says or does this, I'll fuck him" ... so things are dependent on him reading what those right things are and doing them to elicit a more overt sexual response from her. The problem is, most men (in western industrialized societies) spend the majority of their time with other men, and so don't have to learn those things to attain the level of financial success they need to be at their comfort zone. So talking to a woman (especially a "woman's woman") is often like talking to a speaker of a foreign language.