okay so

[tyfromtexas]

my bf is kind of big, like i’d say 7.5 if not 8 or that’s what it feels like. so my issue is that after i douche and we start getting hot and heavy he goes to put it in and it almost always takes us a second or well rather it takes me a second to loosen up (i usually use my dildo to loosen me or put in a plug)

so my question is how do i relax?? it’s not like he’s a total stranger or something like that

 

[engineer805]

I don't think it's his length that's the issue, it's girth. I encounter the issue quite often (I'm 6" girth) and most guys use poppers to get a wave of relaxation ... and it seems to work for them.

 

[tyfromtexas]

I don't think it's his length that's the issue, it's girth. I encounter the issue quite often (I'm 6" girth) and most guys use poppers to get a wave of relaxation ... and it seems to work for them.

hmm i’ve tried poppers but i’ll get a new bottle and see if that helps

 

[GetNakedIGotAPlan]

I have bottomed for very big dicks before and I later realized I’m not a bottom after some sexual exploration but, I definitely agree poppers help 100%. I got mine off of poppers pigs. I usually need some big hits before and during sex to remain relaxed. Poppers do not last a long time no matter what you do so you will need to continued use IMO. He also might be doing it wrong, actually. I’ve been with a guy who most bottoms would consider “small” and he must have been doing a bad job because there was a lot of discomfort. Meanwhile, I’ve been with a guy with a very large penis, I wish I had a photo, and we actually didn’t even use lube (just spit) and I only had poppers and the sex was more enjoyable. I hope this helps!

 

[HungInNM]

It also depends on the amount of lube and position you are starting out in. Being in your back is a boring position but it’s usually the easiest when first starting out. Once ur loosened up than you can act like a porn star haha

 

[tyfromtexas]

It also depends on the amount of lube and position you are starting out in. Being in your back is a boring position but it’s usually the easiest when first starting out. Once ur loosened up than you can act like a porn star haha

so he has a down curve still we don’t really do missionary which i agree it does help me but i find when i start on top i can insert him at my pace

 

[Brodie888]

so he has a down curve still we don’t really do missionary which i agree it does help me but i find when i start on top i can insert him at my pace

Seems like you've answered your own question. Positions where you control the progression like being on top is the best place to start. Then once you're relaxed you can do whatever you want.

But to take things one step further. My advice is to buy a double ended dildo about the same girth as your partner and practice with it. The reason why I suggest this is that most 8+ inch dildoes tend to be too girthy and probably made for pussy.

My other suggestion is to get your partner to fuck you with a vibrator while he is sucking your cock. Vibrating remote control butt plugs are another alternative. The vibration should relax you quickly so you can take him faster.

 

[Christopher_James]

I really like your threads in here.