old guy "waiting for me" outside my open shower stall

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If I were in your shoes, I would tell him that I will have to report him if he didn't leave me alone.
 

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I think rude but I have to admit if I saw Kalipygian in an open shower I'd have to take a good look but would walk on by.

I have to admit in order to not come off as being rude I would take a good (real good) look at Kalipygian and go into one of the other pvt showers with a raging hardon thinking that I wished I was soaping Kalipygian up real real good and all over. lol
 

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I have news! he struck again, this time with more nerve!!!
i finish my workout and i go to the locker room, where he pops up after 3-4 minutes.
i go to the same stall cause the otehr ones stink since they are connected to the toilet drain, and i start showering..

and he pops again.. saying with a very gay voice...
"i see you got my stall again"
- yeah man, well the other 3 are empty (and turn my back)
i continue washing, and after 1 minute he comes out of his stall all soapy and stares at me saying
-well... you dont have any humor dont you? still sitting stark naked and soapy while im trying to shower
- are you gonna stand there for???
- yeap.. i like to see you
- please do me a favour and get inside your stall (in very serious tone)

i finished my shower after that. and i didnt see him..

getting a gym at my house or taking a shower at my house are not options. I WILL NOT be driven away from my gym cause of the old fart!

im a very polite person, and i really dont like to be confrontational with people, especially since im gay myself, but greece is not as liberal as other countries in the issue of nudity so his behaviour was utterly out of bounds!

Yeah, the older gent was out of line. You should complain. As a matter of fact, you should tell gym management about this guy. You do have a right to shower without being harrassed. You tell them about the guy and you have a member of gym management talk to the guy. Have him stopped at the shower by management. when you are getting ready to shower.
 

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Well, I've even had peeps stare at my crotch and lick their lips. A buddy of mine is 6'9" and 300 lbs. He opened one eye while washing his hair, and a guy was staring at him wanking. I told him he should have reported it. He was too embarrassed. Now me, I'd say, I have a gun in my car, you bother me anymore, and with one shot I'll change you from a rooster to a hen. Gotta love that line of dolly p's.
 

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well, hopefully, i wont see him again,

reporting him, or threaten him that i will report him is too direct and hostile...

i dont want to make a big deal out of it.. he saw what he wanted, i hope he can jack off for a year or two without having to refresh his memory!
 

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one suggestion- if he/it bothers you that much- simply change showers- it would make the point that you do NOT like being watched...

and if he IS waiting for "that" shower then it gives him an out...

we have several younger guys at the gym now who have taken to drying off IN the shower (I can't stand that- too hard to stretch your arms out) and then taking their shorts (in some cases pants) in with them and changing IN the (dry) shower...
 

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we have several younger guys at the gym now who have taken to drying off IN the shower (I can't stand that- too hard to stretch your arms out) and then taking their shorts (in some cases pants) in with them and changing IN the (dry) shower...


yeap, thats what i do. thats why i prefer the open one, since i can stretch without touching the god-knows-what's-on-them walls and door
 

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This man is almost certainly harrassing other people too. His behavior detracts from people being able to enjoy the membership they paid for and is bad for business.

There was a guy at my gym for several years who was not as direct but would continually stare in a way that was very creepy nonetheless. I never knw his name. My partner and I referred to him as "Creepy guy."

His game was to either spend hours in the locker room, shower, and suana. He would position himself in the sauna so he could see who was coming in from the pool. If a young guy came in, it was time to shower. In all those years I never saw him do one second of exercise. Occasionally he would leave the gym and go out into the parking lot and stake out the entrance. If someone promising entered, it was time to do it all over again. People knew who he was.

Someone must have complained because he is gone now. He was there all day most days so I'm fairly sure his membership was revoked. My recommendation is that you at least mention it to the management. If several people do this, they may take action.
 

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Well, I used to get massages on a regular basis from a peep in Houston. He kept getting bolder and bolder with his remarks. I finally told him, "If I see anything sticking out, I am going to yell snake and kill it." I had to repeat it to him once. He got the message and quit. If he comes at you trying to poke you, grab it and give it a hard snap. It will never work again.
 

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My opinion is that if you are in an open shower and all your goods can be seen, some people are going to react...as long as he doesn't touch, he can look all he wants...I keep in mind that one day I could be in his position--although I wouldn't be rude!!!
 

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At this point I think talking to the managment is the best- avoid any and all confrontation with this character - the "no sense of humor' might have some rejection anger behind it- you never know these days...
 

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Hope he behaves better. You certainly shouldn't let anyone drive you away.
I forgot my age is not showing here, I am speaking from the perspective of 51, so I am an old queen as well.:(

Not the case here, but there were 2 fairly recent threads with very elaborate stories by supposed young straight guys who said they suffered much worse 'advances' by gay guys, one in a shower and the other in a bathroom, I believed them at first, but have since come to suspect they were made up. (and I def am NOT inferring I doubt you, I do not)


There can be a lot of "projection" in these stories .
Why expose (no pun intended) yourself to unwanted advances ?
Change gyms, close the shower curtain, speak to the management, wear swimming trunks when showering ...
I too am old beyond comprehension .
If you speak firmly but politely to your aggressor he will get the message.
NO should mean NO .
Some people give off mixed messages.
Hence, the totally heterosexual young men who reported attacks from predatory gays on this very web-site.
Perhaps an element of fantasy is involved ?
Just a thought ...
What also worries me is the transparent and naked ageism shown by many posters.
The moral of the story is never get old and be gay !
 

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There can be a lot of "projection" in these stories .
huh?
Why expose (no pun intended) yourself to unwanted advances ?
i thought seperate male/female showers were made to minimise sexual advances
Change gyms, close the shower curtain, speak to the management,
i will not change my gym because the guy is rude,
wear swimming trunks when showering ...
surely you must be jocking
I too am old beyond comprehension .
:rolleyes:
If you speak firmly but politely to your aggressor he will get the
message.
NO should mean NO .
Hopefully.. lets see
Some people give off mixed messages.
people say that my stare is forbidding even when im trying to approach someone.. i dont think i give mixed messages
Hence, the totally heterosexual young men who reported attacks from predatory gays on this very web-site.
Perhaps an element of fantasy is involved ?
no comment
Just a thought ...
What also worries me is the transparent and naked ageism shown by many posters.
ageism??? id be equally pissed off if he was 20yrs.


The moral of the story is never get old and be gay !
 

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:biggrin1: I love this line:
I finally told him, "If I see anything sticking out, I am going to yell snake and kill it." I had to repeat it to him once. He got the message and quit. If he comes at you trying to poke you, grab it and give it a hard snap. It will never work again.
 

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He may simply be a creature of habit who uses that stall all the time, an inconsiderate old fart whose only thought was for you to hurry the hell up and move on. Some people think only of their own needs.


I think Pecker is right. You were in "HIS" shower. A prime example of OCD.
 

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I'd say, I have a gun in my car, you bother me anymore, and with one shot I'll change you from a rooster to a hen. Gotta love that line of dolly p's.



Not on the subject but my favorite dolly is 'if. if... if a frog had wings it wouldn't bump it's ass when he jumps'


Sorry... returning to the thread in progress...
 

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We are overlooking the VERY OBVIOUS!

This idea of modesty by some or cruising by others is strictly an American Issue!!!

In many many places in Europe there is simply no issue with nudity in a locker room. For example:

I was sitting naked in a steam sauna in a NICE Dutch Hotel. In walks a very attractive, mid 20's hotel amid with her amid cart. At first I thought it was a bit strange but sat quietly. The maid proceeds to take off her dress, bra and panties and join me in the sauna, greeting me "good afternoon" in Dutch. She sat down naked and enjoyed the sauna never saying another word to me.:eek: :eek: :eek:
 

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That is so creepy!

Why be so subtled? I would tell him to stay away, and stop looking in your direction if he bothers you that much. If that doesn't stop him, go on with your business and don't pay attention to him. Don't let him stop you from going to the gym!!

This reminds me of a guy at my gym who likes to take loooooooong showers, so he can watch us take ours. He's very discreet, and doesn't stare too long, but we all know that he has been washing his hair over 6-7 times and never leaves the shower. On the other hand, he could be really dirty. =)
 

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reporting him, or threaten him that i will report him is too direct and hostile


I'm going to apologize in advance to you hunGreek for the rudeness of my comment I'm going to say to you.

Grow a spine!

How dare you let this ass make you feel uncomfortable in the gym that you chose? That guy needs to be reported to managment and he needs to be reported the very next time you go to the gym.

I don't care of that idiot is OCD and needs to be in that stall, which he doesn't, sense he soaped up in another stall while you were showering.

By doing NOTHING, you are giving him PERMISSION to make you feel uncomfortable. All this will do is embolden him to keep pushing that line closer and closer to you and the next thing that could happen is that he just walks right on in while you are there.

Be a man, defend yourself. REPORT HIM! If he's done it to you, then I'm sure that he's done it to others.

There are rules and procedures in place at every gym for situations like this. USE THEM!

Stand up for yourself, damn it!