As Steven Stills sang” If you can’t be with the one you love, love the ones your with.
So if you are a partner with morals then it means you masterbate. You do so thoroughly and often.
Yes, I speak from experience. It’s been 8 years of pain, loneliness, loss, doubt, feeling betrayed, left behind, anger, reminiscences, and acceptance. It’s life altering but not life ending.
More than anything though it just is what it is and it’s up to you to decide what’s more important and how you will handle it.