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Thanks for sharing...I've asked and she says no
I've had alot of offers from others...I want to so badThanks for sharing...I've asked and she says no
Thanks for sharing...I've asked and she says no
I've had alot of offers from others...I want to so badThanks for sharing...I've asked and she says no
Hi. Im 68 mwm the
ats been in a sexless mariage for over 10 years now. been bi courious over 40 yrs but never acted on it. But now im really thinking hard about it. Not looking for any type of relationship, just play, sex. I know many feel that is cheating but i dont know. How can it be cheating when your spouse doesnt what sex to begin with. And when I say sexless I mean just that. No touching, playing, intercourse. Absolutely nothing for years. Anyone else the same? And how do you deal with it?
I think a lot has to do with how you view any sex you have outside the house. When I was married, my wife never gave me as much as I needed. I started feeling like I was forcing myself on her. I eventually started finding sex outside the house with both girls and guys. I felt guilt at first. But then I realized it really was like adult play. I was just having fun, getting/giving pleasure, and making new friends that had little to no implications for my commitment to my family. In fact, I feel I was a calmer man and husband as a result and def gave my wife peace .
Eventually, I was open with my wife about my activities, which she accepted, but never any specifics. And I remained pretty discreet about it in general. Eventually, we divorced for reasons not completely related to our sex life. But I don't regret at all my activities when married. Looking back, it opened a whole new world to me.
Not want to have sex is ok.Hi. Im 68 mwm the
ats been in a sexless mariage for over 10 years now. been bi courious over 40 yrs but never acted on it. But now im really thinking hard about it. Not looking for any type of relationship, just play, sex. I know many feel that is cheating but i dont know. How can it be cheating when your spouse doesnt what sex to begin with. And when I say sexless I mean just that. No touching, playing, intercourse. Absolutely nothing for years. Anyone else the same? And how do you deal with it?
Not want to have sex is ok.
Being in an exclusive (not open) relationship is ok.
If your partner wants to have both of this, he/she is acting a violence on you.
I don't bother if my partner doesn't like what I like, either she does it with me or I'll do it alone or with someone else.
Ofc that works both ways.
And I am not talking about "she doesn't like anal so I do with someone else" kind of stuffs.
Zero sex is totally a different thing than sacrifice something for the relationship.
If she is not interested in sex she shouldn't be interested in what you do about that (as long as you do it safely).
@AussieScooter I think my answer could be useful to you, too.
Man! what a bummer.. Good you have an outlet..I have read this whole thread with much interest.
I’ve been married for 10+ years and haven’t had sex since Sept 2020. I do everything to initiate and make her feel loved and sexy...just recently I spent 25 mins massaging her and fingering her to orgasm. She rolled over and went to sleep after with not a word of thanks or reciprocation.
I haven’t had a blowjob since 2007. She has no libido, is horrified by the site of my penis, and openly refuses sex. She also refuses to have her lack of libido addressed by a dr.
Feel so rejected...I turn to this forum for nice comments from guys. Helps make me feel wanted.
I am probably in the minority here but I don't actually blame my wife for our sexless marriage. I have to lay the cause on my own doorstep. I just simply went off the idea of sex with her about fifteen years ago. Although I still love her and we remain close, I gradually stopped finding her sexually attractive. She is six years older than me. When we were younger the sex was frequent and always satisfying for both of us. But for me it started becoming boring, repetative, less spontaneous. I tried to spark her interest in new things but she wanted to remain conventional. She has fairly old fashioned values when it comes to sex but I can't blame her for that. So, when the opportunity arose I ended up playing away from home with other women and then guys, and the excitement of it was thrilling. I now almost exclusively have m2m fun, but if I initiated it, my wife wouldn't turn me down. I would probably be seen as the bad guy in our marriage but it's just the way it's worked out.
Same deal here... so wank alot... here, chaterbate and skype without her knowing....I’m in the same boat except my wife doesn’t acknowledge it and messing around with anyone else is a big no.
plus can’t do much due to the covid crap with everyone around the house all day.
64yo mwm here, married 42 years, as we aged she has gotten less sexual and I have gotten more.Hi. Im 68 mwm the
ats been in a sexless mariage for over 10 years now. been bi courious over 40 yrs but never acted on it. But now im really thinking hard about it. Not looking for any type of relationship, just play, sex. I know many feel that is cheating but i dont know. How can it be cheag when your spouse doesnt what sex to begin with. And when I say sexless I mean just that. No touching, playing, intercourse. Absolutely nothing for years. Anyone else the same? And how do you deal with it?
Sexless marriage for me and my wife for many years. Long before I met her I had fantasies about men but never did anything. When we first met we had a good sexlife. After marriage sex became infrequent e.g. once every 2 months, then every 3 months, then twice a year, then once a year. Now zero. At the once every 3 months mark I was frustrated and angry but hid that from her. I was tempted to cheat with a woman, went on a few coffee dates with married women, but never did. Instead, I dusted off those old mansex fantasies, met a guy and we went all the way. After that I resolved to discreetly embrace my same sex side and I stopped being angry and resentful. I began to see my sexless marriage as a good thing. I stopped asking my wife for sex. My private masturbation time was 90% devoted to thoughts images fantasies of male = male sex. I would occasionally hook up with men. My wife would occasionally ask for sex, but I could no longer get hard for her.
As a man married to a woman who is no longer sexually active I must say that most women that are no longer having sex are not being selfish, but have an issue that is effecting there sex drive, or just simply have lost there sex drive altogether. And it can be a lot more selfish for there husbands to keep on making them have sexIm probably too young to be understanding of everything involved here, but I cannot see how being in a marriage where there is no sex and no opportunity to have an outlet as healthy nor a happy situation.
By being not angry or resentful anymore, you probably took back the power you lost and feel good about yourself again.
Its why when my married male partner wants me, I almost always make myself immediately available for him. I appreciate he needs to fuck/cum and I am always happy to help him achieve that. Even if I have plans or am busy, we will work around a schedule and time to suit him. Unless I am genuinely sick which is rare, I wont ever say no, its cruel and horrible. Not to mention, I enjoy that he desires me that way, so its mutually satisfying too. One time I was going out for friends for dinner followed by drinks and I still made plans. We went to a seedy hotel, nearby, he fucked me and I left. I went to dinner with several shots of cum in my arse, that slowly during the night leaked out of me. I cant begin to tell you how hot and dirty I felt, it was amazing. So its not just me satisfying him, he satisfies me too.
I think its very selfish for a wife to be able to do that. Unless there is actual physical reasons its a form of manipulation.