OK im the older top guy here. My situation is sort of making me have some strange emotions. Well first my bf is a top in the bedroom, but out of the bedroom he tends not to take control. Is this because he wants to have all control in a certain area of our relationship. I on the other hand im quite assertive and even controlling at times. I am learning that even though i am a top that bottoming can be such a release. I love the fact that he makes me feel im not in contol. Now here is my question. Currently im feeling I gave up my role as the top. Is this why I feel the assertivness or control issue for me is also leaving me. Which is sort of causing problems. How do I approach this situation with him.