On BEING SEDUCED by women - Questions for the HET MALES

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smile everyone likes a good smile, if your talking to the person smile at them during if your eye flirting wait till your eyes have brocken contact its s good signal that you saw him but are ignoring him just paying attention to whom ever you are with. Biting the lip at apropriate flirty times is a real cannon charger too. Ei if your thinking and you look up and bite lip, listening intensely, being fingered under table, you'll just know when is appropriate
 

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::shrug:: no idea. The guys I know, myself included, aren't like that and I can't imagine the appeal. Nice bum, btw.

Well, for what it's worth, I'm glad to know that there are at least some men who don't behave this way. Congratulations on being one of the few!

And thanks. :biggrin1:
 

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I'd say, let it go. If he's married, then don't. It sounds like he's trying to reform and I'd say don't make it difficult. Besides that, do you really want to be the other woman? I mean really? To what point and end? There are tons of single guys who are available. Don't destroy a family. I mean at what point did this sound like a good idea? Did you grow up wishing to break up a marriage? I don't think so. Then be true to your younger self and don't seduce him.
 

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For me if shes funny, smart (doesnt have to be Einstein), and has a great ass then she has just seduced me lol. And if she plays video games too then she has herself a husband LOL. One day I hope to be seduced by and older woman for some reason thats a fantasy of mine lol, I wonder what Mrs. Phillips from next door is doing LOL.
 

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I'd say, let it go. If he's married, then don't. It sounds like he's trying to reform and I'd say don't make it difficult. Besides that, do you really want to be the other woman? I mean really? To what point and end? There are tons of single guys who are available. Don't destroy a family. I mean at what point did this sound like a good idea? Did you grow up wishing to break up a marriage? I don't think so. Then be true to your younger self and don't seduce him.

hahahaha In order to be the other woman, I'd have to be in love with him, or want to be with him, and like I said, he's not that bright. I have standards, and the only ones he meets are in the attractive / nice cock dept. I will simply use him for sex, and vice versa. Seems win-win to me, especially since there's A LOT of work to be done around the house. And then once we're done, we're done.
 

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However, something happened recently that's changed his entire demeanor. I have no idea what it is.

Men have their own pathetic reasons for turning on a chick. People have tons of rage, guilt, sadness and hate that they never acknowledge, and react like children in any given situation, projecting their crap onto others.

Overall, men are slime, and if you're going to play, you must have a tough skin. Or, avoidance works, too. If you're not feeling strong enough, take a break. I did. For two years.
 

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To me, it seems that many men don't like women to be straightforward and honest, in terms of seduction, or showing interest or attraction. From what I see these days, men go after the haughty, angry, unhappy-looking girls without a thought in their heads and nothing of value to say (think Victoria Beckham - good comparison!). The ones who play emotional games seem to be far more in demand than those who don't. Thoughtful, considerate, friendly, intelligent, confident, honest attractive girls seem to get swept aside in favour of these sour-faced man-eaters. I don't understand it.

You have to let go of all of this. If you dwell on it, you will spend your life crying. Once you truly accept yourself -good and bad, pretty and ugly, bad past, good past, imperfections and all, things will change for you. You'll stop attracting oodles of women-haters and little boys in mens clothing, and begin attracting a few very compatible ones.

And yeah...nice ass!
 

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Men have their own pathetic reasons for turning on a chick. People have tons of rage, guilt, sadness and hate that they never acknowledge, and react like children in any given situation, projecting their crap onto others.

Overall, men are slime, and if you're going to play, you must have a tough skin. Or, avoidance works, too. If you're not feeling strong enough, take a break. I did. For two years.

I do agree with you that people project their own pain and guilt from past experiences unfairly on to 'new' people, without giving them the chance they may deserve.

Though, I strongly disagree that, overall, men are 'slime'. I just think that many of their reactions in terms of seduction/reception of attention do leave something to be desired! :redface:

I can't imagine spending 2 years without men...without sex! What a joyless existence that would be! :eek:
 

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You have to let go of all of this. If you dwell on it, you will spend your life crying. Once you truly accept yourself -good and bad, pretty and ugly, bad past, good past, imperfections and all, things will change for you. You'll stop attracting oodles of women-haters and little boys in mens clothing, and begin attracting a few very compatible ones.

I have already 'truly accepted' myself in the ways you've mentioned. The observations I made were gathered from my own life experience, which means they are accurate for me, but may not be true from someone else's perspective. :rolleyes:

The issue is not about whether I have accepted myself. That is suggesting that his behavior is the direct result of an action/reaction of mine, which does not make sense in this context. I would rather try to understand men's behavior (and subsequently adjust my own accordingly, so we can communicate), than dismiss the subject and try to banish them from my life completely.

Anyway, I think we're getting a little off-topic...
 

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Bette -
Were you to saddle up to me a the bar with a seductive smile and we chat, and you have a great smile and are a good conversationalist and you really want me and you either make jokes or have great body language and/or both. Eye contact - I mean my eyes directly on your tits, body, ass, legs OR your eyes on my shoulders, torso, bulge and then back to my eyes and face, that would work. (followed by your hands grabbing my ass and pulling me to you) and letting me brush my lips against your neck, then putting my hands to your neck and kissing you mouth to mouth, then stopping when you wanted to keep going and brush my temple to your cheekbone, pull away and smile at you and kiss you again. . .
Is this the right thread?
 

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I have already 'truly accepted' myself in the ways you've mentioned.

If that were true, none of it would bother you.

I would rather try to understand men's behavior (and subsequently adjust my own accordingly, so we can communicate), than dismiss the subject and try to banish them from my life completely.

Good luck. Who cares about understanding men's behavior? THE WHY OF IT DOES NOT MATTER. You'll run around in circles in pain forever.
 

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I can't imagine spending 2 years without men...without sex! What a joyless existence that would be! :eek:

Not at all. I don't need sex, or men, to be happy and fully of joy.

BTW, your sig says it all about you. If you enjoy the pain, go with that. But don't post on internet message boards and whine about shit when you welcome it into your life with open arms.

I'm done with you now.
 

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Bette -
Were you to saddle up to me a the bar with a seductive smile and we chat.............temple to your cheekbone, pull away and smile at you and kiss you again. . .

LOL you are determined, I'll give you that. But the above, well, that's just flirting! It's not seduction.
 

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LOL That's not seduction!!! People have really lost sight of the art....
Thats passion and love. Its me learning to be a real man and not be in control all the time. There is more than one way of being Seduced. Two ways are with Words or Actions. I spoke of actions. She needed no words.
 

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Not at all. I don't need sex, or men, to be happy and fully of joy.

BTW, your sig says it all about you. If you enjoy the pain, go with that. But don't post on internet message boards and whine about shit when you welcome it into your life with open arms.

I'm done with you now.

I don't 'whine about shit', I post on here to share my own experiences and to learn from others. I don't do it with the intention of expressing bitter negativity, and don't post in order to put people down. Can you say the same?

I think perhaps you should evaluate your own reasons for your cruel words. Obviously, you have been through a lot of pain in life, but that is no reason to spout vitriolic hatred toward people who are merely trying to discuss with you. Hiding behind a computer does not give you the right to lash out at others. It is childish and uncalled for.

That's good, for you, that you don't 'need' men to 'be happy'. You certainly sound like you are overflowing with joy. :rolleyes: As I am a straight woman who is deeply in love with men, their psyches, their strength, their bodies, and all they represent to me, I can't imagine a life without them.

So, you don't like them. To each their own.