One Night Stand - do I do it or not?

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  1. marwan80

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    Hey guys. I'm a gay guy who is not out of the closet yet. I met this guy on gaydar and he's "visiting" the States. He asked me to come to his hotel tomorrow night to, you know, hookup with him. Do I do that or not? The guys looks okay, but seems very intelligent and actually smart. I've never done one night stands, and I think I might be just not getting laid enough and that's why I'm just being a horny dude. Part of me says: "You're fucking 22 years old, just go and do it!" but other part of me says: "You're a hot fucking 22 yrs old and not a skank!".

    What do I do?
     
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    Does this guy know you are a virgin?
     
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    I'm not a virgin. I've been with 3 girls before, and one guy. But I've never done 'one-night-stands'. They have been all semi-relationships and physical meetings.
     
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    Dude, Hotel hookups have usually turned out pretty good for me. Your gonna be in his space so if it's not working out the way you want it too, you excuse your self, grab your stuff and leave. If it does work out and you wanna see the guy again exchange email/phone info and you can get a rematch.
     
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    I'd say "go after it, man." One-night stands can be exciting and might lead to something else ... who knows? I've had one-nighters with many women and a few guys.

    My only reservation, personally speaking, would be if I was currently in some kind of a relationship with someone else who meant something to me. I'm pretty serious about my fidelity and wouldn't want to "cheat" on someone I cared about.
     
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    do it

    one night stands are the best
    fuck and leave
    simple as that
     
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    Go for it. Use protection and plenty of lube, and have fun. If he's a freak, just leave.
     
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    Yes, go for it!

    Your'e 22. Why not get it out of your system.

    If you meet the person and don't connect, you canshake hands and say thanks, but no thanks.
     
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    I would exercise some caution. This is a person you do not know. The one night stand is not the issue. You should at least meet at the bar in the hotel and you should make it clear to him (in some way) that someone knows were you are at. Do not assume that becuase you are a young man, that you are not vulnerable to danger. AND of course...you need to be clear this is your first time in case you are about to have your ass pounded...and be safe.
     
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    Ahh how is hooking up being a skank?

    I know lots of horny dudes who hookup for 1-time meetings.
     
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    As long as it's safe and you're not cheating on anyone, I say do it.
     
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    One night stands can be tricky, it just depends on what you are looking for. I have never really liked them because they leave me feeling unfullfilled after. But I am more old fashioned and that could just be me. From experience though I have had two. One with an ex boss lady, we were both drunk and it was the worst id ever had. The second was with a girl who was a friend of a friend in college. She pursued it because she was a virgin, so I did it making it clear that all it was was sex. After that she hated me and so did my friends that were her friends as well. So do it or dont its you choice, but before you do carefully consider all possible consequences and also consider how you will feel after, its really not worth it if you feel like you have compromised your character.
     
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    Go and check it out. If it doesn't work, leave. If you don't go, you'll always wonder what you missed. If it does work out, that's a big plus!
     
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    Play safe. PLAY HARD!

    Sometimes, NSA (No Strings Attached) is the only way to go. Focus on having fun. Grab your stuff and go if it is not going well.

    Good or bad just remember, that only is true for this hook-up. You must have fun in life.
     
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    along with the majority here i say do it too. as long as you understand that it is just that one night and dont get emotionally attached then it should be fine, because from the sounds of it thats what he wants. if hes just visiting then you will probably rarely or maybe never seen him again so as long as theres emotional baggage then you should be fine ;)
     
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    Yeah, do it! I spent too many years being too conservative and now look back with regret. As someone else said, meet in the bar first and check him out and also tell a close friend where you are going.
     
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    I've tried this a couple of times. One was great, a life-affirming meeting of two guys in a spare moment. The other was so-so, but nothing bad.

    But I have had several approaches from US businessmen on the net who try to book a hotel meeting in advance. But then their meeting runs late, or they have to go to dinner with clients, and you get messed around. Eventually I decided they were mostly looking for a free escort service, and they really ought to just pay for that and stop bothering me.

    But they mostly seem to be decent guys and a hotel is a pretty safe environment. As long as you realise it's just a one-off (even if they are regular visitors, they're never going to settle in your town and there is NO possibility of a relationship). Distance friendship, maybe, at best.

    A good one-night stand, especially when you are young, can live in the memory for years to come. And add to your sexual confidence.

    A bad one-night stand can be put down to experience, as long as you've been safe. Don't take any risks for a stranger.
     
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    dood....how about...meeting him in the lobby...either for a soft drink or water...alcohol may be to suggestive...
    talk..get some chit chat...and find the chemistry...and make sure he is who he appears on line...i had some 'dates' that scared the bee jeezus out of me...
    then...take it from there...always give urself an out..if u show up at his hotel room door...he opens the door...and all is not what its suppose to be..how do u save or spare his feelings...guys who say they look 35 when they are 50...don't see what everyone else sees...they remember what they use to be...and i really think they think they are pulling it off...
    just be ready for anything..
    robbie
     
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    I agree. Do it. BUT:

    1) Meet him in a public place first, perhaps in the bar of the hotel, as has already been suggested.

    2) Before you're going, let a friend know where you're going and when you expect to be back.

    3) Be safe. No matter what, use the appropriate protection.
     
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