Still sounds personal. Let me know when I start making inapropriate ethnic jokes. Or make some more of your own. Whatever.
He has the resources, just not the desire. But he obviously wants to fuck me (and other women) more than he wants to make sure that he's never a father again. I recently found out about a third baby. His kids are 10, 8, and 1. He still drives a two-seater, and he still has two motorcycles. This year he was only able to get a custom chinchilla jacket. He didn't get himself any new jewelry. The man has a voracious sexual appetite, and is extraordinarily self-absorbed. But he'll never have any trouble drawing women to himself, and he'll never not take care of his sons. Financially. I suspect that the speech he gave me is just something he says in the hopes the woman will bite. If he was serious, he wouldn't proceed.
You are 100%correct about that.
Um... Even wealthy people who abuse their children end up having them removed by this agency. Your taxes are
supposed to take care of the utterly defenseless.
I don't know if I could right now or not. I don't know how much it costs. I know my mother was sick all the time, and as a result our money only went so far. my mother worked from the time she was 16 years old. She was a college graduate. When her sick leave ran out and she was still rehabilitating after losing a limb and suffering two (more) heart attacks, we went on public assistance for almost a year. I'm sure glad it was available. I was glad for free breakfast and luch at school, too. Oh, my father? He once gave me his tips for pocket money. I bought him tons of stuff when he was dying. I have no idea how much money my mother spent on food, clothes, toiletries, housing, transportation, my education, my vacations, my summer camps, my friends' and relatives' gifts from me, my pets, and my books and toys and the ice cream truck, or how much I impacted the price of her health insurance. Whatever it was, she found a way to pay it, mostly on her own. It kind of sucked. I think she did it that way because she hated my father. I was their second surprise. I have no idea what became of the first one. I only found out a week ago. Whatever did happen, my father charged $300 to my mother's credit card and split. So ends a decade of love and romance.
I don't know what it costs, and I hope not to find out too soon. So I take precautions. But if it happens, I will be a mother, a very good one, like my own mother was. There will be one difference. My child's father will pay his share, whoever he turns out to be, he will already have known that before going in, as it were. I have the social security numbers of about half the men I've slept with. People trust me. I say, "What's your social security number? Mine is, ***-**-****." They look at me funny, and then offer up the digits. Obviously people trust me to be honest. I say, "If we get preggers, I'm keeping it, and you have to help me financially, and I'd like you to help me emotionally, and practically too, but those last two will be up to you. Also, I would like to have our child welcomed to get to know your family." They agree or I go home. I have yet to be sent home. I also have yet to be not invited back.
And then, when he woke up, the real world was waiting. It was ugly, it was poor, and it was crumbling.
You are right. People who can not afford to have children should not. It would be nice if emergency contraception were available without a prescription. It would be nice if all high schools gave out free condoms instead of pretending that teenagers do not have sex. It would be nice if every woman on the pill remembered to take it at the same time every day without fail. It would be awesome if all children were born to intelligent people with the time and financial resources to properly raise a human being. All these things would be sweet. Unfortunately, at this juncture, that world can only be seen by people who have their head in the sand.
