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I'm single and am struggling with online dating... not for lack of responses, but lack of appropriate responses. I'm pretty specific about myself and what I'm looking for, and often times, I get messages from people well outside those parameters (age, interests, etc). I recognize that it can be tough to put yourself out there and send a message, so I don't like to not respond, but I'm frustrated by what I get back. For example, if I say "thanks for your message, but I'm looking for someone younger/taller/closer... good luck on your search", sometimes I get a snarky response like "you're not that much younger" or "I'm not that far" or some other message that dismisses what I just said, so I stopped responding to those who didn't meet the criteria I stated in my profile. Sometimes, I get snarky responses that I'm a bitch for not replying. I feel like I can't win.
If I do get an appropriate match and start talking with a guy and for whatever reason he's not a good match for me, I am even more kind in how I say I'm not interested. This usually leads to numerous messages trying to get me to change my mind or telling me how my logic/opinion is wrong. If clearly/firmly restate my thoughts, I get called a bitch. If i don't say anything (because in my mind, the matter is closed), I get a minimum of 5 "hey", "hi", "are you there" type follow ups. Duuuuude- take a hint!
If you have any suggestions on how to deal with this... meaning what "no thank you" sayings would you accept best... I'd love to hear them.
If I do get an appropriate match and start talking with a guy and for whatever reason he's not a good match for me, I am even more kind in how I say I'm not interested. This usually leads to numerous messages trying to get me to change my mind or telling me how my logic/opinion is wrong. If clearly/firmly restate my thoughts, I get called a bitch. If i don't say anything (because in my mind, the matter is closed), I get a minimum of 5 "hey", "hi", "are you there" type follow ups. Duuuuude- take a hint!
If you have any suggestions on how to deal with this... meaning what "no thank you" sayings would you accept best... I'd love to hear them.