Online Dating / What is the best thing to say, or not say in your ad or profile?

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  1. cjc2806

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    Ive read things on the internet that supposedly say 80 or 90 percent of guys do the same things wrong in writing their online personal ads, and they say the wrong things when they send someone a message on those sites.

    Im probably most likely one of those guys that does slight things wrong, not realizing it...saying the same things, and not doing or saying enough eye catching stuff, yet, I do whatever I think using common sense, and not sounding boring or perverse....with authenticity, yet highlighting the good things.

    Does anyone have any insight into this concept? There are things on the internet that charge you 100s of dollars to tell you secrets that 90 percent of guys dont know about how to build their online personal ad, but in this economy, who's going to fork that money out over and over to do that.

    Has anyone here had success at dating online, or writing the perfect type of personal ad, or saying the right things in your first email to the lady or guy of your choice?
     
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    I had a lot of success with online dating and can tell you a few things that I hated reading:

    "Just checking this out" No you're not. By the time you have a profile you're no longer "just checking it out."

    "How do I describe myself in words?" (and sayings like that) You'll read that a thousand times looking through personals. ZZzzzzzz.

    Having just one picture. That means it's your best picture, and probably a big fat lie. Have a bunch of pictures because one never really shows who you really are.

    Also, a pet peeve about my straight friends who get no play: They always use the word "girls" when talking about women. "You know, I'm in to girls who are funny. Girls who are sporty. Girls that..." Twelve year olds want girls, grown men want women.

    Sorry to sound so opinionated, but the topic is all about opinions, I guess. Best of luck!
     
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    never mention kids in your profile.
    mention them in the first few conversations but don't advertise them.
    not for fear of putting people off.
    but for fear of attracting the worst sort of pervert.
     
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    Yeah my profiles all sound kind of plain probably . In some of them I tried to be funny. I can be pretty funny at times ,people tell me so. Im articulate with expressing myself in writing, but I dont want to stretch any truth too far.

    I have two basic photos of myself. One is from last year, and one is from a few years ago. Im not even anywhere where Im getting photos taken of me, i normally dont like too many photos of myself, but I do have the one or two..ok maybe i have a third one somewhere on like myspace.

    Too be honest, I dont have a lot to say about myself. I dont have a lot to advertise. Im just like anyone else on those websites. Just looking to meet someone on there possibly, because I have trouble meeting women face to face, ....living in a small town area, rural type area...and 99 percent of the women I run into are way too old, way too young, married, have 10 kids or something, or covered in tats and weird piercings, worship satan etc....lol....

    The funny part about doing local searches....I click on the part where it says, kids, and I want to meet someone with no children ,and search results go from like 25/30...to like .....8.....ha...seriously....thats how bad it is. Im just not somone ready for kids now.

    Its just as hard from my experience meeting anyone online as it is face to face. When I go to the gym, which is the only place I might see younger women, then they are too young...or way old...or married etc. ....
     
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