KennF
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Kenn, I like what you said earlier...I would quote it, but there's a lot there. Lol!
In your second post, I have to say that I do feel that you ought to be allowed to make certain posts in your own personal space (like a lot of social media is public, but personal) without the outside world reacting unnecessarily. I think in this case, I don't even mean someone posting explicit nudes, videos and the like...but maybe something suggestive and tempting. Those posts don't give others the right to say, "let me suck your cock," or, "you're a fucking tease...you can't just do that and expect me to not want more!"
A lot of the bodybuilders on IG go through this quite often. They can't post certain pics because the majority of their comments are like "I wanna suck you" or "I know you're gay because I can see your dick..." completely unnecessary and offensive.
I know a talk a lot. Sorry.
As I see it, you are mixing up "allowed" with "right". You are allowed to post. You aren't actually in the public space, but close enough. Just because you are allowed to, doesn't mean that others aren't allowed to react.
You don't have the right to prevent someone from responding to your post. You can ask, suggest, and block the response from your field of vision, but you can't stop the person. (BTW - Facebook, Twitter, etc... have the right to remove or ban comments, based on the EULA.)
If you take this whole situation offline for a moment...
Now you putting a cardboard picture of yourself on a wall somewhere while wearing your posing outfit, flexing to show off your hard work and body definition. There is a corkboard next to it, and you ask people to leave anonymous messages. Do you NOT expect people to comment on your sexuality, or, ask to see more explicit pictures, or, make crude comments?
The way to cope with that is either:
(a) make sure that cardboard picture is placed in a gym, or area where people only people who appreciate it will see it; or
(b) shrug off the comments and stop taking them personally; or
(c) don't put them up in the first place.
On the other comment, who decides what is "reacting unnecessarily"? Who gets to controls it?
If I comment on your tight ass, and I mean that you've worked your glutes and legs to create definition... is that okay?
If I comment on your tight ass, but I really mean that I think your hole is tight and I'd like to do something sexual... is that okay?
Who makes the determination? Is it the receiver of the comment, or, the speaker/writer of the comment?
You can show off all you want, but you (and only you) can control your reaction. You have to expect that people will give compliments, insults, lascivious, and weird responses... to EVERYTHING. And 99% of the time, to them, the comment is necessary.