We have talked about it! I brought up being open and honest and let the other know what is expected and what is not. It was met with a no and resistance. Don’t tell me know it’s not what you want and then go do it! Give me the same consideration.
Your statement is completely valid. I have gone through something like this myself, except I found out that my partner cheated a few times with these apps behind my back. After lots of learning and communication, he realized his reasoning for his actions was a deep psychological issue and sought help from professionals.
Learning to settle with this type of behavior from your spouse is unacceptable. Relationships are two-way streets which require a lot of open communication to make work over time. If what he is doing causes you anxiety, I ask you to think twice about your place in the relationship and consider what options are best for you. It is so easy for me to type this but if you cannot cope with the situation anymore, you should consider finding a new path for yourself or speaking to him openly without confrontation. If all you receive is resistance, he is either telling the truth or deflecting from the situation. Find proof if you need to make your argument factual, otherwise suspicions will just get the best of you but how he reacts to your proof will tell you a lot of things.