Can you get aroused by fantasy only when having sex with a partner that you are not attracted too? The reason I ask. I've spent some time with a girl that I later found out was actually a lesbian before. Just some month before we met she used to walk around like a 'tom-boy' with short hair, guy's clothes, and all that jazz. She then decided she wants to settle down and before we met her ex-boyfriend broke up with her because he caught her cheating with another girl. I've had a great time with her, she use to become very wet when we had sex, but her stamina was done after about 10 minutes. It began to hurt her because she became dryer. Although the sex was good, it was always a bit strange. In retrospective I wonder whether she might have had lesbian fantasies to get aroused? Would that work for you, could you get aroused that way? Have you ever done something like that before?