Greetings from chilly Chicago! I'm pretty new around here. I became interested and decided to join LSPG after being traumatized by really disappointing sex with a poorly endowed man. But I assure you, that was not all that was wrong with him. I will spare you all of the details, but...suffice to say, in spite of all of the dating I have done in the last couple of years, I just haven't met anyone who felt like a good match, and I am holding out for something really great, otherwise I would rather be alone. (I do have a cyber boyfriend who fits the profile in so many ways... someone who I connect with, feel passion for, and seem to have a tremendous amount in common with. Alas, he is miles and miles and an ocean away. and much much younger. and really shy.) I should also mention that I am a PhD. student, a feminist, and an aspiring writer. Am I somehow inherently scary? I'm not a man hating femiNazi and I don't have the need to be intellectual all of the time. In fact, I prefer not to be! Am I crazy and unrealistic for holding out that there is someone out there who is smart, funny, respectful, and who drives me WILD? Funnily enough, penis size is something I have only recently admitted is important...I guess I have decided to go gangbusters and aim for it ALL. In the meantime, here I am chatting with the cyberDreamMan and hanging out on LPSG. That's kind of sad, isn't it?! Ah well, I like meeting people, what can I say? So please, say hi if you feel so inclined.