Hi there everyone. I've been dating my current boyfriend since August 09, and before I met him I was never very into anal sex, he considers himself a bottom. We've both made concessions through the relationship, we'll fuck every now and then, but he doesn't pressure me to do it as often as he'd probably like.
So early in our relationship I mentioned the possibility of involving a third person to take care of his needs that I didn't really want to, and I could kind of tell during the conversation that maybe he wanted to do it, but he didn't want to seem like he did. Anyway, nothing ever materialized with that conversation. About a week or two ago, we were casually discussing our past sexual histories, and the topic came up again, this time he had the courage to admit it was something he'd be interested in.
This kind of put me in an awkward position for a few reasons. I have never been in an open relationship or even had a threesome, but I do feel I'd be okay with these things. Also, now that he was interested in doing it, I kind of felt like I wasn't, but for selfish and petty reasons. When I met my boyfriend, I was about 220 pounds. I'm 6'2" and it was extremely evened out that I didn't really look like an overweight person. I've put on an awful 40 pounds since last year and am about 260 now. I'm doing weight watchers which is working well, I've lost about 10 pounds in 3 weeks so far.
Anyway, my weight and self image is kind of making me uncomfortable with the idea of an open relationship, I suppose my confidence is gone. Our sex life is still great and I know my boyfriend really doesn't care about the weight I've put on, but a little part inside of me can't stop thinking of the possibility that my weight and decline is part of the reason he suddenly wants someone else.
I tend to have had a lot of success with diets in the past, but I had always gained weight back due to not making healthy eating choices after coming off them. I estimate I'd be back to a weight I'm more comfortable with in two months or so. I feel like once I'm back to a weight where I look and feel better, I'd be more comfortable with the idea of an open relationship. Though I feel like that's a stupid to make my boyfriend wait for a green light to meet someone else.
Anyway, I'm not sure specifically what kind of advice I'm looking for, but this community has always had good and kind words in the past so I thought I'd see what you all have to say.
So early in our relationship I mentioned the possibility of involving a third person to take care of his needs that I didn't really want to, and I could kind of tell during the conversation that maybe he wanted to do it, but he didn't want to seem like he did. Anyway, nothing ever materialized with that conversation. About a week or two ago, we were casually discussing our past sexual histories, and the topic came up again, this time he had the courage to admit it was something he'd be interested in.
This kind of put me in an awkward position for a few reasons. I have never been in an open relationship or even had a threesome, but I do feel I'd be okay with these things. Also, now that he was interested in doing it, I kind of felt like I wasn't, but for selfish and petty reasons. When I met my boyfriend, I was about 220 pounds. I'm 6'2" and it was extremely evened out that I didn't really look like an overweight person. I've put on an awful 40 pounds since last year and am about 260 now. I'm doing weight watchers which is working well, I've lost about 10 pounds in 3 weeks so far.
Anyway, my weight and self image is kind of making me uncomfortable with the idea of an open relationship, I suppose my confidence is gone. Our sex life is still great and I know my boyfriend really doesn't care about the weight I've put on, but a little part inside of me can't stop thinking of the possibility that my weight and decline is part of the reason he suddenly wants someone else.
I tend to have had a lot of success with diets in the past, but I had always gained weight back due to not making healthy eating choices after coming off them. I estimate I'd be back to a weight I'm more comfortable with in two months or so. I feel like once I'm back to a weight where I look and feel better, I'd be more comfortable with the idea of an open relationship. Though I feel like that's a stupid to make my boyfriend wait for a green light to meet someone else.
Anyway, I'm not sure specifically what kind of advice I'm looking for, but this community has always had good and kind words in the past so I thought I'd see what you all have to say.
