hi all, just after some advice. Is anyone in/tried an open relationship? Me and my husband have been together 9 years (married for 6) and have agreed to give it a go.
I’m just wondering how people in this situation find it? Does it work? He’s already had a guy since we agreed to it and I’m wondering do I ask him how it was? I’m a little curious but then not sure I want to know?
thank you
I’m with my partner 14 yrs we’ve had an open relationship about half of that time.. each of us liked something different from it. I found it a big turn on to hear or imagine him with someone else, whereas he preferred not to know the detail. Sometimes we would meet someone together and sometimes separate. It is essential though to communicate, we used the open relationship to help ours along
For example if there was something that wasn’t as great as it used to be like kissing it would come clear from meeting others that this needed improvement and helped bring it back to what it used to be by discussing it and acknowledging it was missing.
If yourself and your partner set the stage so to speak and are able to take some good from it and communicate that to one another beforehand and use it to improve things between you rather than cause resentment then it can be a great thing to do.
set rules like not being on Grindr or whatever talking to others when you are both in the same room or chilling together for the evening.
Also be willing if one person starts to doubt it’s for them both must stop immediately.
this happened at one point for us but once that doubt settled we went back to it.
You never know, it could really turn out for the best….
Before I even met my partner, a person from the other side of the country I had come across on one of the dating apps years ago had always stood out in my mind as a dream outta my league that would never happen as we were both mainly tops (Well known profile on here too & hecka hot)
This guy had moved to our side of the country somewhere along the way and one evening my partner said a new friend was coming over he had met a couple of times….
I couldn’t believe it, it was the same guy that had stuck out in my mind for years & was now sitting across from me in my living room.
It didn’t take long for us all to have fun and have been in a closed 3 way relationship since…
I feel like the luckiest guy in the world.
So go ahead if that’s what you both want, do it with your eyes open and be willing to talk about every aspect with one another.
But be careful for each others sake.