Hi, I'm new here, but I'm hoping you all can offer some advice. I have a friends-with-benefits relationship with a guy. We met through and online dating site and got to be really good friends. We'd be friends even if we weren't having some occasional sex.
My dilemma here is that he talks a lot about his past relationships and what he's done sexually and it seems to be far more than we're currently doing.
I'm fairly shy and I have a hard time talking about feelings, needs, etc. It's something I'm working on, but old scars from growing up and a bad marriage make it difficult. I can be very open and active during sex, but I need to feel like I'm in a place of emotional safety before it can happen.
Anyway, I really like this guy. We've been friends for over a year now and he's made hints about open relationships, etc. A lot of his fantasies also involve being watched, particularly getting sucked off or jacked off and having another woman watching it happen.
I've thought about this a lot and I think I'd really like to do this. I think I'd also want to try sex with multiple people. I've never been with a woman, but I'm not turned off by the idea - there would just have to be at least one cock involved, lol!
I also have a fantasy about being with two men - particularly two men who aren't opposed to touching each other as well as me.
My dilemma is that I don't know how to bring all of this up to my friend. I'm afraid of ruining our friendship, which means the world to me, but I also want a much more active and adventurous sex life.
Any advice would be very much appreciated.
Thanks,
My dilemma here is that he talks a lot about his past relationships and what he's done sexually and it seems to be far more than we're currently doing.
I'm fairly shy and I have a hard time talking about feelings, needs, etc. It's something I'm working on, but old scars from growing up and a bad marriage make it difficult. I can be very open and active during sex, but I need to feel like I'm in a place of emotional safety before it can happen.
Anyway, I really like this guy. We've been friends for over a year now and he's made hints about open relationships, etc. A lot of his fantasies also involve being watched, particularly getting sucked off or jacked off and having another woman watching it happen.
I've thought about this a lot and I think I'd really like to do this. I think I'd also want to try sex with multiple people. I've never been with a woman, but I'm not turned off by the idea - there would just have to be at least one cock involved, lol!
I also have a fantasy about being with two men - particularly two men who aren't opposed to touching each other as well as me.
My dilemma is that I don't know how to bring all of this up to my friend. I'm afraid of ruining our friendship, which means the world to me, but I also want a much more active and adventurous sex life.
Any advice would be very much appreciated.
Thanks,